Current situation with job and family..need advise

Take a break and go for a vacation... Spend time with your family without your computer/laptop.... switch off your mobile.... You will become more energetic and will be clear on what you need, when you return back from the trip....

 

Hi

I don't think this would be permanent solution... Why dont you try this..

1. Search a new job, where you have lesser work load, and is close to your home.
I am a S/W engg too. Luckily i don't have much work pressures and its around 45mins
from my place, if i change job i will get almost 50% more salary, but i chose to be in
this company as i have flexible timings and little pressure (I have compromised on lesser salary).
this way i get to spend lot of time for house hold chores, with dh, i celebrate all festivals grand
(I prepare everything previous weekend and have everything ready, so will have only pooja and cooking
on festival day).. So i am happy as both Homemaker and Have a job to be occupied and even earn...

2. Hire a full time maid to do complete house hold chores, once your home ensure you just spend time with
your dh and kid... Also as Amnsilakshmi suggested take vacations once in a while....

 

Hey Oliveoyl,

I can very much feel your guilt coz i too sail in the same boat.
My mom in law takes care of my kid but still i do feel guity of denying the above said things to my child as a full time mom.Though my MIL takes good care of my kido still I feel for not taking care of her like other house moms.Esp in the morning when my kid has sad face or even cries when i leave to office.If this is the situation now this would be the case throughout untill we need money.
My husband had given me full freedom to stay at home but our financial needs do not allow me to do so.Even i feel like quitting these days but a bit worried to take such a decision.I also do not want to sit idle at home being dependent.
But now i am almost deciding to quit in next 2 to 3 months.I am into a part time business and now i have decided to do that full time in next 2 or 3 months once my set goal is reached..through this i can spend quality time for my kid esp.Still i have to put in some work in this business too but still i can have my kid with me whenever i feel so.Hoping and keeping my fingers crossed that my plans work out well.
Better try changing to a different job where your timings are better than now.That would be the only option.you can also take a break but again should land up in the same pitch.So think of changing over your company or speak to your boss about timings and work load.

 

You are frustrated to the core. Take a break have a kit-kat no I am not joking. Take a break and if possible what suma said follow that. Or else you will not like anything end of the month when salary comes to your account will also be meaningless as your weekends are on calls and all. Be ready and prepared now itself before it slips from your hand.

 

I agree with you Suma

I have also chosen the same .....I am also an Engg work at a company about 6 away from home and able to manage home and work...

Just try an option of WFH Olive if it works in your company .....Many companies provide this option....


Take care,

 

Hi,

This guilt is there is almost every Working Mother's Life. Chill dear. Its your Life .You need to take a call on your priorities and decide.

I am also in IT field for 7 years and recently moved to the Corporate group from the Delivery. Right now i am able to squeeze my Work strictly between 9 and 6 and spend more time with my LO.

Think about alternatives and am sure every Problem has a Solution.

 

Hi

Once you loose your time its not coming back again.
so realize now itself its not too late change your job as other said.
whats the use of all those thousands of money in from of your kids smile?
talk to your DH and take a small break meet all your friends and family with your family have a get together and enjoy

if you get adjusted in the same way for some more time you will loose your kids childhood.
when he gets into his higher studies then you may have time for him but he needs you very less.
your kid needs your love and affection.

every thing is after your kids happiness right?
so think about taking break
i see lots of ladies prefer leaving their good jobs for their kids.
so its not wrong.

if possible invovle in some part time works and when your kids grows up you can make it full time
and you too dont feel dependent.

 

dear Olive,

Most working moms do feel guilty about not having enough time for their family. I feel working moms deserve greater appreciation because they have to manage both home n office. However, there is no point in comparing the two because grass is always greener on the other side !!

Working moms have financial independence, job satisfaction and mentally stimulating environs but miss out on the home and social front. Similarly stay-at-home moms might be a boon for their family and manage their homes beautifully but have just kids to interact with [unless they have a great social circle or stay in a joint family]. Whichever role you choose, just do your best. One way to stop feeling guilty would be to stop comparing yourself with others.

love,
kylie

 

My God you seem to be living only for your work,
1) fix a schedule time apart from the calls, to finish off ur work and not to open you laptop or touch your BB for mails/browsing
2)do not commit too many things to your manager/customer infact practically speaking always keep a buffer

always remember your workplace can get a replacement but your son wont