Hello all, I am new to this forum. After reading all the forums here I thought someone here can help me solve my stress. My main stress is my in-laws. Starting from the first day of my marriage my in-laws are dominating me and my husband. They torture both of us very emotionally. They are very cunning by nature who behave royal and dignified in front of others that they are role models for in-laws. But inside there thoughts and views are very dangerous. They try to point some or the other fault whatever we do. They always see problems from their daughter side which is common for every parent. They compare their daughter's in-laws with them and their daughters with me. But my husband who loves his parents a lot doesn't have an idea of their cunningness. Even though he loves them a lot they think he is not taking care of them because of me. No matter how much I try to be like a daughter to them they always see me as a daughter-in-law. They put so many rules you should be like this like that and then in front of his son they say 'you are like our daughter, why are you not getting along with us'. during my marriage they said they dont want dowry or anything from my father. They also told me that I should not take anything from them. That was only in front of others. Now they keep on telling me that my son got so many matches who are rich and offered huge dowry and they keep hating my parents as if they did not give a penny even though my father gave dowry. They try to prove and insult me in front of people who used to like me that I am not a good wife or good daughter-in-law. They are also interfering in our relationship now that I am not taking good care of him. And my husband started thinking thats true. They try to prove to him their daughter is a ideal woman, ideal wife, ideal daughter-in-law etc etc. They always blackmail him emotionally that they don't want to live anymore. The thing I hate more is they pretend to be good in front of others and my husband. But internally they are mentally torturing me. And my husband has no clue about it. Whenever we get a discussion on this he asks me to keep quite because they are our well wishers and whatever they say is right. There are many more personal things they bother me. Please help me what to do.