My long time friend's husband posted on his facebook page that his mummy had passed away. His fb friends ( I am a friend-of-friend) are all going-on heavy with the condolences.... quoting poetry and such. For more than a decade I have heard regular lament from my friend about how her MIL is making her life hell.... every day of her life. Now the MIL is dead. My friend must be doing a happy dance within herself, working hard to suppress her joy, if the few people in her collective-family household are feeling/faking misery for the few days when visitors come by to express their sadness and condolences. I had send her an email two days ago. All her emails, and my recent one are still there on google. They will be there for eternity. Her true feelings, and supporting emails from a friend. Damn !! Have I done something stupid ? What if wikileaks reveals all to someone who really liked that devil of a woman who had died ? The DIL says her MIL is the devil incarnate.... and says so on all the social media forums she is a member of, and in many emails to her dear school mates and friends. And then the devil dies, and everybody responds saying mostly.... different shades of condolences. Is speaking/or even implying ill things of the dead, a bad thing to do ? What is the safe thing to do in such cases ?