Somebody had posted big issues on untouchability....and i felt so bad for OP having to face it when I am quite a rebel on that and do not even believe in it. All i found myself to observer is not to go to puja room or temple and puja to someoby's home....i still have to force my self. My DH also believes in it. (Gasp...) but when PILs not around, i end up entering the puja room and doing things as DH does not end up payign attention...I have to follow strictly when PILs are here, she used to crib on not washign hair on first day and then on 4th day etc...eventually i fake it...and then even stopped doing it....and there were compliants etc.... and now here is the height... there is a puja coming up at closet friend of theirs for navratri, and i have time of the month during that time. I told her i cannot join rest of the family should go. As i have mentioned before she does not go anywhere without me (aaaaaaaaaaaa....) and here comes the change of rule... that'd be your thirdday anyways, wash hair and u r fasting anyways for navratri...so one day == 2 days so it will be 6th day actually for u, so u should come.... what?????????????? i m dumbfound....with MIL's theory my DH had a good laugh too and i was surprised he did not raise flag that he would not like it... all look for their convenience except us DILs do you have any such story to share on convenience ?