How do you enforce healthy boundaries in your marriage? Be assertive ? When your husband has told you to leave? H4 housewife, well educated with good job back in India, now here with husband for 1.5 years, 8 month old baby. Husband is momma's boy (parent's boy), puts blood before all - even wife. Not communicative, does not discuss, and then blows his fuse. Ignores me in everything, I am his last priority. He is a dutiful and loving son and father, which only highlights what I'm missing. No, I dont know why. He is selfish, puts his interests above mine. He is also a decent man, none of the regular vices. I am being very superficial here, the stories would take pages. He has a basically traditional mindset, which I unfortunately discovered only slowly after marriage. Appears to adjust but keeps tabs. I am someone who believes in equality and respect in marriage.. I am not ready to leave my Baby. My parents have told me to just deal with it. I am here looking for support, guidance and wisdom. I notice that I haven't mentioned my faults. I raise issues when they happen. Yet, I have been too accommodating of his quirks and demands, despite voicing my disagreement. I have adjusted and compromised a lot. I get emotional - teary when I'm really angry. And dumb, to stop myself from saying anything untoward. It went fine as long as I kept nodding my head, but finally now that I have started making a stand (on issues of Baby's feeding), he has told me to leave the house, and that he doesn't need me. Because I have an opinion on everything, and because I don't cook for him on time and manage the house by myself (am not the obedient traditional housewife) - Baby notwithstanding. I'm feeling so dazed, I don't even know if I am coherent. What should I do now? How should I carry myself? We are not even looking at each other. And no, its not just-a-husband-and-wife-tiff. He has given me the silent treatment several times before, but this time, he said this, and actually called up his parents and blamed me left right and centre to them. In front of my parents, who had just got on skype to see me. Maybe I am too vague..just prod me for more detail.