Confessions of an erstwhile momma's boy

Hi OP,

First of all hats off to you for understanding the true colours of your mother. I understand and feel that your wife's anger is totally justified. I am almost in the same position (except that I do not have a child at the moment) and my husband and I though living under the same roof do not even look at each other. I think to earn the trust back (yes, you need to earn the trust back), it is important for you to let go (even the thought of you feeling it is unacceptable for her to badmouth your mother), be there for her and support her now. It would also be good to take some counselling as it would otherwise be difficult for her to see the change in you and believe that you have truly changed (and to understand that this is not another trap created by your mother). Be positive, calm and supportive. Give her the necessary space and truly express your apologies to her and she would understand! Good luck