i came across a funny news item that a wife applied for divorce because the husband was too caring ! Examples given were : He would jump up to do washing up after meals , so that she would not drop the dishes . He would do the laundry so that she would not handle the washing machine wrongly . He did the grocery shopping and bank work, so she wouldnt do mistakes in accounting ....every small thing . Atfirst she thought he was so loving and taking care of her , but slowly realised he would not trust her to do anything right . So she filed divorce on ground of mental cruelty ! Now this is an extreme case, no doubt . But when i was thinking of it, i could not help but think of the attitudes of some parents in our country . They dominate and control the children in everything , while saying " we are doing for your good only " . And keep pouring advice upon advice on them , spoonfeeding every detail , always adding " dont do anything stupid " ( vera ethayavathu senji vaikkade ) . So instead of building self esteem and confidence in them ,they only make them confused and diffident . And because of that , they will do something wrong also , and patents will say " i knew it ! I told you so " .it becomes a vicious circle . Love can become a strangling rope . And Concern and Care can become Controlling Iron hand . Some people never realise this , so sad .