Dear Dear Kanaka, Hats off to you for being so open! Even my appa and amma never believed in "Shraadham" ceremony. Those vadiyars will eat your money, better spend on the person when he or she is alive so that he can go up with sweet memories. Today when I perform a small ceremony during their tithis, their words echo in my ears. I was naughty always, but reserved too. I could break ice only with people like me, will not mix up with everyone! Now, everything is shredded, how are you dearie, busy with work like me. Have a great evening. Bye.