I am in a weird situation and need a place to vent.. me and H had loads of fights during first 5 yrs of marriage.. shouting, blaming, finger pointing, taking sides.. but never physical abuse. Ours is love marriage and hence the bad side of MIL or each of us blindly supporting our parents led to our fights. He would often utter divorce and I fought back saying that he plans for an easy route and challenged him to face situation like an adult and to keep our childrens future in mind. fast forward, we moved away from in-laws and my parents to US, but we are still in good terms with both sets of parents.. their visits, stays, etc the way we are maintaining peace is by not bad mouthing each other or parents. So, any issues or irritations will be faced silently. I will be pissed for 3 days and then i get back to normal. I shop, binge eat, show irritation, but never talk about it. Cuz in the past, it led to fights.. Right now, I am angry on my mil and H about something.. i am silently showing my discomfort and reading or watching tv or just going for drives myself.. This time, I feel like shouting and pointing the mistakes to mil and H( as they have done in first 5 yrs), but I am holding back for the long term peace. what is the point in not talking and sharing frustrations with H. We leave our parents, siblings, country, friends, etc to be with spouse.. and strangely cant be open with spouse and cant let out the feelings!!