Do I love my mother in law? Yes Why should I love my mother in law? Not because she is my husband's mother but because she is a very good person. She is a very bold woman and she never tries to interfere with our plans and personal life. She is a very matured person. she never gossips. we fight and argue but I love her a lot. If I have a problem with her, i will talk to her about that directly. We both are egoistic people. But at the end of the day, I still love her. She never talks bad about me behind my back. We both have negative attitudes at one time or other. But I never poke my nose into her business and viceversa. I have never expressed my love and gratitude for her. So I dedicate this post to my courageous mil. According to our indian society standards, I am not a good daughter in law. I am not a submissive girl. I dont wear thaali,metti and any other identities. I am strong feminist. Feminist != Good daughter in law.(Inversely proportional) My husband takes my side always. (inversely proportional to good daughter inlaw) I never let anyone bring me down and never let people interfere in my personal life. So I am not a good daughter in law according to Indian standards. But my love for her is never going to end. There is something special about our relationship.(my mil and me) I have never tried to please her by changing my identity and I have not changed after marriage. Sameway, she has'nt lost her identity. So our love is so special. The reason I stressed the word Feminist : My mil is more matured that she never tries to interfere or preach her daughter in law who is against patriarchial practices. This does'nt mean she has wholeheartedly accepted my thoughts(Her thought process is different from mine). It means that she has respected my individuality. Every one has different conscience and thoughts. I think its very important to respect others' beliefs.