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Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by paru123, Apr 2, 2022.

  1. paru123

    paru123 Gold IL'ite

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    There is a Birthday party coming of a kid in our society, my kid n me are invited. I dont gel well with the mother. Though this is not clearly understood by an outsider but I know she doesnt like me. This person has deliberately avoided me in many situations where she could have informed otherwise. She shares silly things with me when we are together and deliberately avoids sharing any important things. I can easily catch that vibe from her. Now she has many other friends with whom she shares many things. And they talk so secretly (basically gossiping) as if it's an International problem. This behaviour irks me a lot. She has invited all of these friends also for the party. I personally feel that there is no need to invite mothers for children's party. But she is doing it. I feel odd in their company especially when she is around because I am not aware of many of the gossips. What to do, should I attend or not? Just go n enjoy or let them enjoy all alone.
     
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  2. anika987

    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    How old is your kid?
    If it your child is 7 or above,drop her and tell her in a smiling way that you have some other family meet etc and excuse yourself.It’s okay with white lies at times.

    Younger kid means ..just go and you just say hi and talk to other ladies generally or even otherwise be quiet and smile and listen to their conversations and be generic.It will get over in 3 hours max.


    Don’t get too attached.Why u also want to know their gossips and it does not seem like a good group to belong also.So no worries.
     
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    MalStrom IL Hall of Fame

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    If your kids are friends then go to the party. You can supervise your child and just make some small talks with the other moms.
     
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    paru123 Gold IL'ite

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    Thanks, I did attend the party and it was fun and good. The host was busy so had no issues with her. However I was put in a tight spot by her friend gossiper X. Long back I had a problem with my flat mate A , because of a misunderstanding. Gossipers added fuel to the existing fire and she as a revenge did not invite me for her sons wedding. Even I stopped talking to A. Later during covid we had a situation that I had to interact with A and it was win win situation for both of us. However, the old incident of not being invited for the wedding and the gossipers reactions n questioning about it and the consequent mental pressure that I had faced then , always stayed fresh in my mind. Because I had helped X during the covid time, she kept a hi bye relation from then on.

    I assume that the gossipers dont know what happened between us during covid. Now A's daughters, engagement n wedding is fixed. Most of A ' friends including X have been invited for the engagement n I was not. Yesterday during the party X asked me in front of everyone why I was not invited for the sons wedding. I wasn't expecting a question on the past , but when she asked me I was not prepared for the question and I replied enemies are never invited for weddings. I should have said past is past, why bother about it. I feel sad that, I said a wrong statement and these gossipers would definitely pass it on to A. When I am with people, I get so excited and talk too fast without thinking or taking a pause.

    I feel so disturbed after this. My ego was hurt a lot when I alone was not invited for the sons wedding. X's unnecessary questioning opened the old wound. Also I keep asking myself that if in case A invites me for the daughters wedding, should I confront her about not being invited for the sons and start ignoring her again as the wounds have been re opened. I have literally cried when I was not invited for the sons wedding. I know it is very silly but I was hurt a lot.

    Gossipers dont let others live in peace. They will never help people forget bad incidents. Would u attend wedding if you were in my place.
     
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    paru123 Gold IL'ite

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    You are absolutely correct, the group is not a good one. But when we are living in a society, we cant remain aloof na, have to mingle with them also.
     
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    Yeah just be generic and talk when needed,finish the party and get back:)
     
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    I should say u should go! She may have realized what she did to you and wants to patch up! I will suggest go and mingle with all and be happy!
     
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