So the very active thread on birthday parties got me thinking about the parties I planned. Almost 15-16 parties by the grace of God. Each party used to be mostly my responsibility. From the date, venue, invitee list, reminding for rsvp's, menu, return gifts, who will take photos, what cake, when to order cake, how to get cake from store to venue without it melting, how to get those darned helium balloons in to the car, decorations if doing at home. Dad helped but mostly needed supervision or nagging or did it differently that I/kid wanted the task done. I remember one time I gave him the responsibility of giving return gift to children before they left. Return gift was at entrance of party venue. Now some kids are kind enough to openly ask for return gift : ) but one left after a long good bye yet it didn't strike dad to go give the return gift. Why? Was busy discussing cricket with other dads! When I got mad, he said, "But why did the kid leave so early?" : ) : ) : ) Now I can laugh at all those memories but I remember how much work it used to be. And often I had to force myself to smile for the photos. I am so grateful I always had mommy friends who helped so much. So, coming to the question: why are birthday parties mostly mom's job? Why mom has to take care of all details? Why dads get so charmingly clueless even after being through so many parties?