Envy is when we covet something that someone else has. The best ways to get this draining emotion under control are to count our blessings and to remind ourselves that everyone has problems and disappointments in their lives. We can also channelize our envy towards self-improvement to achieve that coveted thing in our own life. With some introspection, we learn to be genuinely happy for the success of others. Having said that, this thread is about a specific kind of envy and one particular method of dealing with it. To reiterate: a specific kind of envy and one specific way of handling it. The envy I am talking about is to do with things that another person has and we cannot achieve, no matter what we do. Here are some hypothetical examples of this kind of envy: A friend lucks out and gets a green card earlier. A friend and neighbor moves to a much more expensive part of town. A friend's kids get to be at home each summer with grandparents from India while your kids barely remember what to call each grandparent. A friend’s kid does exceptionally well in school or extracurriculars, you know your kid is average and are perfectly fine with that reality but prefer to avoid your friend. A friend’s kid gets into medical school, but your equally talented and hardworking kid doesn’t. A friend’s husband is much more romantic and attentive than yours will ever be. A friend has siblings living within 1-2 hours and you have not a single relative in the country. A friend and her family go on many vacations to fun and to lesser known places. Meanwhile, your family is lazy and only wants to stay home. A friend is the adventurous kind, goes on solo-trips to beautiful places, and blogs about it, you would never have the courage to go on such trips yourself. Here is one possible way to deal with this type of envy: Avoid the source of envy. Don’t avoid them completely but cut down significantly on contact with that person. Reply to texts after a longer gap and keep replies mostly brief. Meet less often. Slowly dial down the friendship to almost an acquaintance level. Question: Is it wrong or a sign of weakness to deal with such envy by lessening contact with the source of envy? I am looking for all kinds of responses to the above question, but not a one by one dissection of the examples I gave. . .