My dear Satchi first of all congratulations for the worthy nomination. I did not have much problems with my mil because she was there only for two years. She was expert in cooking and had been very strict with her children both sons and daughters and had taught the son's also cooking. It seems when my husband was eight years old she gave ingredients to him to grind and later asked him what all ingredients did i giv eou to grind for which my husband told her whatever you gave I grinded for which she got angry with him and told him I am telling you to do that job though you have many sisters because tomorrow you must not be dependent on anyone and do cooking yourself when noone is there. That helped him to learn cooking and when he came to Mumbai and was with other friends , he only used to do the cooking as the others were younger to him. I also learnt cooking from him. only. My mil used to love my husband very much because he was born after five daughters though my brother in law was the eldest. So my husband used to tell me you both are like my two eyes and I love you both and cant differentiate between both of you. So I used to adjust with her and always saw her positive side. I was happy when the day she died she had the rasam which I had made . Before my son's marriage only we bought a house for my son first with my half of VRS and the balance he is paying through bank loan. So since my son and dil stay separately we dont have any problems. We could not stay together because we had only one room and kitchen and now a days everyone wants facilities and their own space. My daughter in law knows that I love my son very much, so she does not come between us and I also dont come in between them. Theother day she was appreciating about me to her servant, that being an educated and working woman she understands everything and has always kept me happy. What else I want.