Also forgot to mention: Differences in Social Circles/Dynamics: due to having been in US most of my life, I have collected various friends not of our Indian background. After having met two such friends (one at a Hare Krishna temple and another with her Indian husband at their home), my MIL asked me if I have any friends of our (Tamilian) background. I guess she wasn't super comfortable with meeting those two friends. At a later point in time, when we had moved out to an area having no other Indians in our apartment complex, my in-laws did not have anyone to hang out/spend time with during the day when they came to visit us, and said so when talking with family over the phone. They (especially my MIL) are only comfortable interacting with other Indians, so that is another difference they see in me.