Are these type of blame games common?

Hi,

I have one doubt. Is it common that a spouse blames another for kid getting unwell?

Like my husband has always blamed me a lot , accused me that
1) my son got cold, fever because of me.
2) he was in hospital when he was 2 mnths old due to diarrehea and ILs blamed my parents for that saying they gave me spicy food while i was breastfeeding.
3) whenever me and son went to parents place for weekend and had cough/cold he used to blame me so much as i i created some sin.
4) he keeps on normal blames like i dont give him water or force him to have some food etc
5) today husband blamed me because son has allergy and got sprain in leg .
From fri son has allergy and husband came late from office as well that day. he did not care to come early but i was on sick leave because of son not well. Husband kept saying sons heart beat is more might be rheumatic fever which he had as child and i was really angry on him for analyzing this. Mostly the sprain was because of trying to do Padmasan yoga which i was doing, son tried coping me .he kept blaming me that i might have tried to do my son's leg twist .Instead of taking my son to doc he was busy analyzing what might have gone wrong etc. I was pissed off and blasted him and took my son to doc.

Just am curious if these things happen in all marriages or both spouses stand together and support eachother when in such situation where son is unwell.

 

the case is only with me and my family. they have grudge against us from my marriage time and hence accuse me of anything under this earth and even to my parents.

now a days its becoming difficult to handle considering all the mistakes my husband has done and am still staying with him for kid.

this thought comes to my mind anytime they accuse me falsely.I am not able to ignore these things as i believe atleast during son's illness , a spouse should stand by another one and not keep blaming.

 

he will take responsibility for a day. make him bath when he has time. but later never ever talk about it. son will also later insist to have food from me, take bath from my hands.
his constant things when he comes home is
did you have enough water?
did you have proper food?
did you go to toilet ? etc etc all hinting if i have managed him properly or not.
this hurts because i manage the entire house by myself. husband gets up gets ready and goest o office . comes late for dinner , playing for some 1 hr with son and then sleeping.
he does not do a single task on weekday. on weekend sometimes goes to buy groceries. thats it. no cleaning house, no cooking, no helping with daily chores of son.

 

yeah .. have asked husband but he has no response on that. i feel very irriated with his blame games but now i am giving him back.
on monday he was with my son working from home. when i went home after office i started inquiring.. did you have water? what you had for lunch? did you have fruit? did you go to toilet?

then later in evening husband commented something to son to drink water as bottle is not empty from morning. i again quickly asked son.. why you do not have water? why only little? didnt dad push you to have water ?

I think husband got the point. I have decided to give it back to him then and there.