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An Unvoiced Plea

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by Remanambiar, Jul 3, 2010.

  1. Remanambiar

    Remanambiar New IL'ite

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    Just think ….When was the last time you thanked me for the clean house you live in ,for the clean sheets on your bed ,for the bottles of cold water in the fridge ,for the washed and ironed shirts ,and trousers your wear ,for the clean plates and dishes you have from ,and the every day food I cook for you ,the snacks I get ready when your friends drop in ,the bacteria free toilets ….????
    Why don’t you show some appreciation for the well behaved children you have ,for the well kept house ,for living within the budget ,for managing the crises, for being a good friend and companion ,for being a good daughter in law to your parents
    It hurts me when you take your tension on me .I am as alive and human as you are , so don’t shout at me …aren’t I polite to you even when I am angry (cold but polite ) ? then why cant you be so to me .Don’t I watch cricket on TV to keep you company so why cant you watch at least one of my favourite soap with me .Please don’t turn your back and pretend to snore when I groan with a headache.
    Have you ever guessed how light I would feel if you laughed at my foibles and made light of my mistakes …(remember all that guffaws ….its my way of laughing at yours ….my jaws still aches ) When you are tense and stressed out , I use sweet and soft phrases to address you , to calm you down . I have sensitized myself to every mood of yours but have you done the same for me ? I know each and everyone of your likes and dislikes ,how many of mine do you know… Imagine that …. after living with me all these years ? .

    I would swoon with happiness if you Showed me some sympathy when I burn my hand while cooking ,when I cut my finger ,when I scald my hand accidently …don’t I do that when you nick your chin while shaving .( almost every day ) Do you know that a word of apology from you will chase my anger away. and bring out the sunshine .

    Please humour me when I am feeling blue and out of sorts .Even a small drive down the road or an ice cream cone will chase them away

    I have left my parents, friends and all things familiar to live with you .So be my friend ,my companion ,my family .Play scrabble with me once in a while …I do play chess with you even when I hate it
    I too am a human ,educated and sensible .and tied to you till death do us part .Have spent more time with you than with my parents so love me ,love my faults .
    A smile when I get you your tea in the morning ..a hug at the end of the day …a please and a sorry when it merits is all I need to keep me healthy and happy all my life .
     
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  2. iyerviji

    iyerviji Finest Post Winner

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    Dear Rema

    Another good piece of writing from you. I think every woman expects this. Some are lucky and some are not. Very good narration of your feelings.

    love
    viji
     
  3. Arunarc

    Arunarc Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Rema
    This is indeed an unvoiced plea...we go on doing things without complaining but non to notice it....A little bit of love makes wonders in a women's life isn't it.
    Very well written......
     
  4. Padmasrinivas

    Padmasrinivas Silver IL'ite

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    Dear Rema,

    I guess you have summed up the expectations of many women...

    Hopefully, things are changing these days... with double-income needs, spouses share the work at home and express their appreciation of each other's contribution to a domestic harmony...

    Good post, enjoyed it... looking ahead to more posts on interesting topics...

    Padma


     
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    meenasankaran Platinum IL'ite

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    You have given a voice to the plea of many women. Very well written post. I enjoyed reading it.
     
  6. Remanambiar

    Remanambiar New IL'ite

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    thank you so much meena
    love
    rema
     
  7. Remanambiar

    Remanambiar New IL'ite

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    Dear Padma
    Thank you .But even with the changes standard of living ,some things remain the same for women .I actually want the husbands to read the post .at least then some of them would understand us .

    Love
    Rema
     
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    Remanambiar New IL'ite

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    Thank you viji
    You are so right ,some are indeed lucky . very few wives are appreciated for their multi tasking abilities .
    Love
    Rema
     
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    Thank You Aruna,
    When will our silent pleas be heard ?Hope soon enough .At least i expect a change in the male counterparts of IL :cheers

    Love
    rema
     
  10. Kamla

    Kamla IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Rema,

    What a soulful cry for attention, that too from a husband to whom she has been married for quite a few years! I cannot believe that such absolute neglect of a caring wife can take place, but am realistic enough to know it does.

    I am sure most of us can recognize some of those characteristics in our husbands. That is quite okay I feel, man/woman is not infallible. But when it is as drastic as this, my heart goes out to my fellow sisters who go through such misery. I don't know how so many many women go on with their lives sacrificing all of themselves for a thankless husband and household.

    This ' Unvoiced plea' was touching. Congrats on being nominated to FP.

    L, Kamla
     

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