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  1. anika987

    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    This happened in 2019..

    I was in the airport and returning back to America going through Abu Dhabi.I was in the waiting area in chennai and I saw this group of young men who looked very gloomy and the sadness was apparent in their face.The guy who seemed to lead this group was actually curt with them and ordering them.I felt very uneasy with the way they were being treated.

    Since I was sitting behind their seat,I could understand they are traveling to work in one of the arab countries and they did not seem educated and so I believe for some menial jobs.


    After the flight took off..I then halted in Abu Dhabi and then was looking for airport signs when I see these men being escorted to another flight and the way they were treated by an official was cringe worthy.However...the official was nice to us and others.

    I don't know why this incident haunts me..I wrote this coz yesterday I dreamt of this incident.It replayed back after 2 years?Why should those be treated in a disgusting way just coz they are not educated or poor?Where is basic human respect?I get very affected if I notice incidents like these...

    I had to journal this to put my mind in ease..It's been 2 years and hope those men are back to chennai and happy with their family.
     
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  2. anika987

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    Value towards Money..
    Value towards status..
    Value towards dressing well..

    This is how the world works..
     
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    Our mind remembers every detail and every moment of life. And brain filters out all things that it considers unnecessary. That being said, may be someone or a situation attracted our attention for a moment brain would make note of it then dismisses the information as irrelevant to consciousness. Somehow at night subconscious mind pulls out random details from memory.

    I don’t think is it entirely because of the way they looked. Middle eastern countries are very strict at airport security check-in. I have watched so many documentaries on people held there for years on different reasons. It scares sometimes.
    Apart from racial bias and status and money there are few other theories why do they stop random people, one I know and heard from my friend’s husband is they match the names names against trusted traveler, watch listed, frequent traveler lists with the current travelling passengers.
     
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    Actually..the officials were not stopping them as random people.These men were treated bad with strong curt words and a couple of the officers were laughing as they were huffed into another flight...how to say..like some slave....those men did not look like regular passengers.They looked like they were brought their to work..they were treated very different..that's why it sickens me..
     
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    Yes. Indians who go there for small jobs are treated very badly. Their passports will be seized by their employers. Beaten, low pay. I have seen videos of Indians in Facebook, pleading for government to help them
     
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    :hello:This reminds me of an anecdote of mrs Sudha Murthy of INFOSYS.

    Here's an excerpt (from QUORA) Sudha Murty's book 'Three Thousand Stitches: Ordinary People, Extraordinary Lives'.

    "Last year, I was at the Heathrow International Airport in London about to board a flight. Usually, I wear a sari even when I am abroad, but I prefer wearing a salwar kameez while travelling. So there I was — a senior citizen dressed in typical Indian apparel at the terminal gate. Since the boarding hadn’t started, I sat down and began to observe my surroundings. The flight was bound for Bengaluru and so I could hear people around me chatting in Kannada. I saw many old married couples of my age — they were most likely coming back from the US or UK after helping their children either through childbirth or a new home. I saw some British business executives talking to each other about India’s progress. Some teenagers were busy with the gadgets in their hands while the younger children were crying or running about the gate.

    After a few minutes, the boarding announcement was made and I joined the queue. The woman in front of me was a well-groomed lady in an Indo-Western silk outfit, a Gucci handbag and high heels. Every single strand of her hair was in place and a friend stood next to her in an expensive silk sari, pearl necklace, matching earrings and delicate diamond bangles. I looked at the vending machine nearby and wondered if I should leave the queue to get some water.

    Suddenly, the woman in front of me turned sideways and looked at me with what seemed like pity in her eyes. Extending her hand, she asked, ‘May I see your boarding pass, please?’

    I was about to hand over my pass to her, but since she didn’t seem like an airline employee, I asked, ‘Why?’

    ‘Well, this line is meant for business class travellers only,’ she said confidently and pointed her finger towards the economy class queue. ‘You should go and stand there,’ she said.

    I was about to tell her that I had a business class ticket, but on second thoughts, held back. I wanted to know why she had thought that I wasn’t worthy of being in the business class. So I repeated, ‘Why should I stand there?’

    She sighed. ‘Let me explain. There is a big difference in the price of an economy and a business class ticket. The latter costs almost two and a half times more than . . .’I think it is three times more,’ her friend interrupted. ‘Exactly,’ said the woman. ‘So there are certain privileges that are associated with a business class ticket.’

    ‘Really?’ I decided to be mischievous and pretended not to know.

    ‘What kind of privileges are you talking about?’

    She seemed annoyed. ‘We are allowed to bring two bags but you can only take one. We can board the flight from another, less-crowded queue. We are given better meals and seats. We can extend the seats and lie down flat on them. We always have television screens and there are four washrooms for a small number of passengers.’

    Her friend added, ‘A priority check-in facility is available for our bags, which means they will come first upon arrival and we get more frequent flyer miles for the same flight.’

    ‘Now that you know the difference, you can go to the economy line,’ insisted the woman.

    ‘But I don’t want to go there.’ I was firm.

    The lady turned to her friend. ‘It is hard to argue with these cattle-class people. Let the staff come and instruct her where to go. She isn’t going to listen to us.’

    I didn’t get angry. The word ‘cattle class’ was like a blast from the past and reminded me of another incident. One day, I had gone to an upscale dinner party in my home city of Bengaluru. Plenty of local celebrities and socialites were in attendance. I was speaking to some guests in Kannada, when a man came to me and said very slowly and clearly in English, ‘May I introduce myself ? I am . . .’

    It was obvious that he thought that I might have a problem understanding the language.

    I smiled. ‘You can speak to me in English.’

    ‘Oh,’ he said, slightly flabbergasted. ‘I’m sorry. I thought you weren’t comfortable with English because I heard you speaking in Kannada.’

    ‘There’s nothing shameful in knowing one’s native language. It is, in fact, my right and my privilege. I only speak in English when somebody can’t understand Kannada.’

    The line in front of me at the airport began moving forward and I came out of my reverie. The two women ahead were whispering among themselves, ‘Now she will be sent to the other line. It is so long now! We tried to tell her but she refused to listen to us.’

    When it was my turn to show my boarding pass to the attendant, I saw them stop and wait a short distance away, waiting to see what would happen. The attendant took my boarding pass and said brightly, ‘Welcome back! We met last week, didn’t we?’

    ‘Yes,’ I replied. She smiled and moved on to the next traveller.

    I walked a few steps ahead of the women intending to let this go, but then I changed my mind and came back.

    ‘Please tell me, what made you think that I couldn’t afford a business class ticket? Even if I didn’t have one, was it really your prerogative to tell me where I should stand? Did I ask you for help?’

    The women stared at me in silence.

    ‘You refer to the term “cattle class”. Class does not mean possession of a huge amount of money,’ I continued, unable to stop myself from giving them a piece of my mind.

    ‘There are plenty of wrong ways to earn money in this world. You may be rich enough to buy comfort and luxuries, but the same money doesn’t define class or give you the ability to purchase it. Mother Teresa was a classy woman. So is Manjul Bhargava, a great mathematician of Indian origin. The concept that you automatically gain class by acquiring money is an outdated thought process.’

    I left without waiting for a reply."

    Regarding old and past incident haunted overnight - I shall come back again.

    Thanks and Regards.
     
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    This is very cruel and sad:(
     
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    I have read this and she is absolutely awesome!

    Money never buys class..true.
     
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    :hello:That defines a kind hearted generous amiable person you are. For Past negatives in the real time when you fail to act or react, it goes into subconscious and remain at bottom with avalanche of fresh incidents similar or different one. Psychologist opines an incident observed or occurred today for which you have a past parallel memory, they link together and try to come out. This could be well connected dream or even as reverie with irrelevant images. Pent up emotions aka desires would like to get released in dreams.

    Coming to your compassionate thinking about the illiterate workers mainly from Kerala and Tamilnadu looking for greener pastures in deserts, nothing but
    “cattle” comes to mind. They are treated everywhere from the time they leave their home to UAE AS cattle class. Many are disillusioned.
    But that is ways of life. Our Indians gone lured by richness and got trapped in Indonesia could not return easily until the late minister for foreign affairs Sushma Swaraj intervened in the matter.

    Thanks and Regards.
     
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