I dont have any serious problems in my life. Have been married for 15 yrs, have 2 beautiful kids, loving husband. Life is good. We stay in 2bhk with my Mil. My husband me n my kids sleep in master bedroom n my Mil occupies the other bedroom with double bed. Since our daughter is growing up, i thought we should make her sleep with my Mil (husband n me do need some privacy) But the problem is she watches tv till the wee hours 2-3 am in the night. I told my husband that we should make DD sleep in Mil room but he also supported his mother saying she cant sleep so she watches tv till late n our daughter will be disturbed so she cant sleep with Mil. N my Mil also wont utter a word from her mouth saying that daughter can sleep in my room. Instead she talks negatively that ur daughter wont be able to sleep here, she wont be able to adjust. My question is shouldnt in-laws also make some adjustments when living in a family?? When Dil comes, she is expected to make all the adjustments, she is expected to mould herself according to in-laws lifestyle, but in-laws rarely want to make any adjustment?? Why?? My husband has sacrificed so much for my Mil. He left a lucrative job abroad n took up half salary job in india. He bought 2bhk house keeping in mind in-laws reqirements like flat on a lower floor, on the road side so they dont get bored n can watch from the balcony. (i always wanted higher floor n garden view) But my Mil doesnt show a single ounce of gratitude for having a shravan like son. I have also never asked my Mil to do any household chore. I have handled everything on my own n she hasnt done a single chore since last 12 yrs. I dont even expect her to do anything as she is old and i can handle everything. Only thing i expected was a little adjustment from her side. I have never refrained from my duties as a Dil, giving her medicines twiice a day, tea-snacks twice a day, lunch, dinner everything in her room. She doesnt have to lift her finger. She hasnt cooked a single chapati or anything for me since i got married. When she used to make sheera for my FIL, she wouldnt keep even one spoon of sheera for me. (this was when i was newly married n didnt kno to make sheera) She hasnt taken care of my kids either. Playing with them, telling them stories or inculcating good habits, teaching them about our culture. Nothing. Just watching tv the whole day. When my son plays in her room she doesnt like the toys kept there so she"ll ask the maid to keep the toys in the hall. She wants the whole big bedroom for herself. I dont even mind if she watches tv the whole day but at least she can switch it off by 11 so my daughter can sleep in her bedroom. I wonder how can people be so selfish?? So self centered?? They dont even care for their own grandkids?? All they want is their needs should be fulfilled, they should be taken care of. Dont they have any duty towards us?? Sometimes i think im over-reacting n should just leave it n forgive her. But seeing her everyday being so selfish n not caring about anyone around her makes me frustrated n hate her. I ask for God"s forgiveness for thinking like that but sometimes i just cant help it. Well i just wanted to vent my heart out here. So thank u all the ladies for patiently reading my ramblings.