Am I Doing Something Wrong ?

I finally got a job !!! It has been around 3-4 months but already fights with hubby are exploding. I am giving exact figures cause maybe I am the wrong one so please help me what to do.
My salary is $3900. I don’t want any issues with hubby so I have set up direct deposit where he gets directly $2000 out of this $3900. I told him I will contribute to half of household expenses if at any time there will be more than $4000 then I will transfer the rest to his account. He has never given me a credit card or cash to me. If I ever needed something I used to use my before marriage credit cards and cash as I had worked before marriage and had tons of money with me which my parents never took from me saying parents should not take from kids. But problem is when I was not working due to maternity and pregnancy he never gave me money to buy food or buy gas for car or anything. If I needed something he would yell I am sitting and eating on him and I am SITTING and eating his food and money. But he happily has money to buy Tesla’s and whatever his greedy heart desires working 2 jobs buying his mom end brother and sister whatever they want investing in Bitcoin and what not without even asking me. Think he put around $40000 n it without asking me. Now everything is gone.


He counts even the food he gives or buys a pregnant wife. Why should I pay for his extravagant expenditure. He left me with 2 kids to work working from morning 6 to night 9 FOR 4 years. Did he buy even food for me during this time. ?? No. What did he do with his money buy a Tesla , buy his mom a car , buy his brother a scooter , bring his uncles to the us for tours but for his wife and kids NOTHING.

Since this morning he’s yelling that he wants the whole $3900. I mean if I don’t have a job is he going to pay for my food ? He didn’t even buy food when I was pregnant. So how can I expect he will give me food or pay for my expenses if I give him all my money.
Been married for 11 years he never gave me a credit card or money. Funny how I never realized it . I applied for credit card for myself and use it myself rotating credit cards till I get a job.
Am I wrong ? Should I give him the whole paycheck ?

I must mention he never did shipping the last 7 years of married life. But suddenly since lockdown started he’s doing shopping. Now saying he’s doing all the work in the house and I need to pay him all paycheck. I yelled the other day that he needs to do housework at least half the week as I am paying for half the household expenses. Now he’s saying I’m not doing anything at home cooking cleaning shopping and I need to give all Expenses. He does give kids breakfast as I’m busy with meetings at that time but that is once in a while. I was about to go shopping today since it’s Sunday and he says your going to go shopping in “my car “. I yelled well I’ll buy myself my own car if I keep my money.

 

I value your response. Yes that money is after all taxes and deductions. You are saying that is a small amount. But that salary is equivalent to 60k! How much more salary will a women who has stayed home with kids for a couple of years get ? You are talking as if it’s a small amount. Then what should I do now ? Give him all my salary ? If I give him all my salary who will take care of me when I don’t have a job. When kids were sick with fevers he would just continue working as if nothing happened. I was the one buying medicines taking them to doctors which would require money to buy gas and pay copays at the doctors. What about babies diapers. He is behaving like a teenager splurging money for Tesla’s etc. he needs to know the value of money. When we first got married I was the one who was pregnant then too giving him all my premarital earnings to make him study so he will get a job and take care of me after my first baby was born. He did not even have a job!

I agree with u. So we are fighting like cats and dogs about the remainder of money which is a measly $1900 ( after $2000 goes to him ). Shame on us.but what is the solution for this.

 

What burns my blood is when he is soo calculated as to not buy his pregnant wife food or diapers for baby why should I have the heart to pay for his luxuries. ???? If he needs money he should not have invested 40k in Crypto without asking me. But that is not the point. I cannot bail him out with money all my life. ! That happened once when we got married and now again ! He needs to learn how to manage money ! I know how much I struggled with a newborn baby when I did not have a job. If I would ask him for anything even to do the shopping or extra fruits for picky baby he would not give me a credit card or money and moreover say if you want anything you go get a job and go driving and get it !! Now I got the job as he had challenged and I have the right to buy what I want !

 

Really ?? Hasn’t dodgecoin Bitcoin everything dropped ?