Am I A Bad Person If I Do Not Take Care Of My Inlaws In Their Old Age?

"Am I A Bad Person If I Do Not Take Care Of My Inlaws In Their Old Age?"
Is this a poll? with YES/NO answer ?



On the other hand,

Belief + Doubt = Sanity​

 

Answer is NO.
Parents cannot torture the dil and expect her to take care of them in old age.
Karma is applicable for everyone including them.
I will not personally take care of inlaws
But my husband can take care of them, spend any amounts of money for them.
IAM NOT A BAD PERSON.

 

What does your husband say?

 

Hahaha... quite astute!!
This reminded of another meme from e-cards about guilt trips.


Although, guilt trips are the ONLY trips we can take easily in these days of Covid lockdowns, and airline travel restrictions..

 

It's your personal choice and doesn't make you a bad person.
If in laws are Ill treating their DIL they shouldn't expect seva in old age. I have experienced fully well as to how tough it is to stay with in laws full time and hear their taunts and criticisms and deal with their tantrums. Would be very happy if I had a choice to not have them stay with us.

 

Sometimes we are the hero of our story, sometimes we are the villain too. it is not a yes or no question. i have a similar but different scenario.
I like my MIL, she always treated me with respect, she likes me too (as of now that's what i think) but DH thinks his mom is very selfish, one who doesn't want to spend her own money (this is true), and he doesn't want to stay with her in old age, but will do everything in his power to make sure she is well taken care of. He would go visit when it is absolutely necessary. Me on the other hand has offered help, just stay with her for hospital visits etc. But he doesn't want me to do that. So my service is limited to weekly phone calls to her. My priority is my family - my kids and H, who are the major decision makers. I feel guilty for not being able to take care of ILs. I can decide what to do when it comes to may parents, but I doubt if i will be able to go and be with them full time. MIL and my parents have other people and they do not need me to get by, it is not absolutely necessary to have me there for their daily needs. So from time to time, guilt hits me but I chose a decision to be with my kids and H while offering other supports to the parents. I am learning to live with that.