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Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by sunkan, Oct 22, 2007.

  1. sunkan

    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    HOW OFTEN DO WE ALLOW OTHERS TO PASS ON THEIR BAD MOOD ON US A RUDE DRIVER, RUDE BOSS, AND INSENSITIVE COLLEAGUE OR RELATIVE, SOMETIME WE CARRY THAT GROUCH ALL DAY THROUGH OUR WORK AND TO SLEEP LEAVING BEHIND A VERY DEPRESSED PERSON AND NEVER ABLE TO CONTROL OTHERS AND NEVER ABLE TO SUSTAIN THAT TOOO.

    THEY SAY MARK OF A GOOD PERSON IS TO FOCUS ON WHAT IS IMPORTANT AND LEAVE THE REST BUT ARE WE ABLE TO SUSTAIN AND TRAIN OUR MIND TO IT. IF WE COULD CONTROL OUR MIND FROM STRAYING INTO NEGATIVES WE WOULD SAVE OUR DAY A LOT MORE THAN EXPECTED BUT IS IT POSSIBLE?? YES ! IT IS ..

    THE TAXI THAT I TOOK TO GO TO THE STATION SWERVED IN FRONT OF A CAR THAT CAME OUT THE PARKING LOT IN A SUDDEN TURN, AND OUR TAXI MAN MISSED HIM BY A SECOND AND I THOUGHT WE MISSED ANOTHER CAR COMING FROM THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION AND I THOUGHT WE ARE GOING TO LAMBAST THAT GUY FOR GOOD FOR GIVING THE VAGUE TICKET TO LAST JOURNEY, BUT NO, OUR MAN JUST WAVED AND SAID BYE AND HAVE A HAPPY DAY…

    NOW THIS SURPRISED ME NO END AND ALL I COULD DO WAS ASK HIM WHAT HE WAS DOING AND WHY WAS HE SO HAPPY, HE HAD ONLY THIS MORAL,
    IN THIS LIFE, HE SAID PEOPLE ALL OVER THE WORLD ARE FILLED WITH ****, GARBAGE U NAME IT AND THEY ARE JUST WAITING TO DUMP IT ON OTHERS, JUST KEEP AVOIDING AND YOUR DAY IS MADE…MY MY MY I FELT ALL THE WAY TRUE IF ONLY WE COULD TRAIN OUR MIND TO THIS AND WATCH WHERE THE GARBAGE COMING FROM WHICH IS FLOWING IN ALL THE TIME, DUCK AT THE RIGHT MOMENT TO AVOID SUCH STUFF AND ESCAPE A PLETHORA OF REACTIONS WITH ONE SUCH ACTION…

    OR you become another rubbish bin - For, ATTITUDES ARE VERY-CONTAGIOUS !
    And, you, in turn, dump it on your colleagues / subordinates / spouse and get
    relationships spoiled!

    Use it and make your and others life an enjoyable journey.
     
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  2. sudhavnarasimhan

    sudhavnarasimhan Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Sundari,

    That was a great post! I for one know and get into this garbage collecting business and then go around spitting or vomitting it(yuck!) as and when i find someone(mostly it will be someone close from the family!)
    And many a time my daughter and i discuss this....and how to avoid getting the negativity others tend to throw on us! And how to stop those thoughts multiplying in us like a virus! But this taxi driver's way seems to be a good one.....jump out with a smile and positive thought and there , we don't get the garbage on us or we duck or jump over it!
    Wow, that was a swell one, Sundari!
    You are starting my day here with a great advice.....i needed that badly! Now i will try to make it better for everyone here! ...:thumbsup Thanks! Have a great Day!
     
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    Shanvy IL Hall of Fame

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    hi sunkan,

    Sound advice. not to use people as punching bags and not being punching bags in turn......but we do need at least one:tongue
     
  4. sathya

    sathya Gold IL'ite

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    hello akka


    thats stress buster at his best ...!
    too good to be true...!

    sathya
     
  5. sunkan

    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    thanku sudha,
    happy it has made your day, and hope u know how to take it lightly anymore...sunkan
     
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    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    dear shanthi,
    only when u receive will u want to dump but if u avoid getting dumped with one you will have no necessity to punch any in return..sunkan
     
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    Vysan Gold IL'ite

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    Dear Sunkan,

    Good story.... I can understand.... When the boss gets beating from his boss, it invariably passes on to people down below... I normally under these circumstances... get back to my cabin and relax my self, drink water and avoid meeting my subordinates...

    When I am more relaxed and then will talk to people....

    But it is very difficult to practice at all times.... My views...
     
  8. Nivedi

    Nivedi New IL'ite

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    Hi Sunkan,

    Good one. I think people blindly follow the rule of sharing whatever they have, except that they share the bad moods and anger with a larger heart and the good things with a smaller heart.
     
  9. Sriniketan

    Sriniketan IL Hall of Fame

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    Nice one, Sunkan. Hats off to that driver who gave this simple advise, which must have mastered over the years
    train our mind to be like that---very nice advice but difficult to follow at times.
    Today i was having not a such a good day. I do vent on family members. i need a lot training in this aspect.
    Eventhough we know that dumping on others is not good, to which we have control, but others dumping on us--do we have any control over them?

    Nivedi, i like your explanation on sharing with a larger heart and a smaller heart.

    sriniketan
     
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    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    true veda,
    when anger is a burden u will only want to throw it, not searching for the right source but just at anything you can name is scapegoat which are available in plenty from people who do not react instant, or children the easy target..sunkan
     
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