Advise From A Retired Husband

ADVICE FROM A RETIRED HUSBAND:

It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes
harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they
were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are
oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.

My name is Bill. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife,
Cheryl. When I retired a few years ago, it be came necessary for Cheryl to
get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and
for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started working,
I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the
golf club about the same time she gets home from work.

Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest
for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her.
Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner
on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club so
eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I
hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But
now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after
dinner.

I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening
that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as
it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will say
that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during
her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile
and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even
three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that
missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know
what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She
had to take a break when she was only half-finished mowing the yard. I try
not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice,
big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while.
And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for
me too.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Cheryl. I'm
not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will
find it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than
I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys, even if
you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife
because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well
worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.

Signed,
Bill

EDITOR'S NOTE:
Bill died suddenly on February 7 of a perforated rectum. The police report
says he was found with a Calloway extra-long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II
golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing, and
a sledge hammer laying nearby.

His wife Cheryl was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury
took only 10 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that
Bill, somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club.
REGARDS SUNKAN

 

very true kamalji,
when both are during the menopause time the irritation is very high and only an understanding and co operation can change the situation here, or anywhere, men do forget as they get old that the wife is also reaching a stage where she would like to relax, when it comes to his children he would say, no no not necessary why should you go but when it comes to self he will always feel of course she can do for me why not..these are the reactions of those actions..sunkan

 

one needs a lot of guts paulina,
very tough and if this is the outcome then the actual stuff must had been too tough to carrryout..sunkan