not sure if this reply matters. let go of something and assertive of something. my mil will treat H ,like a baby , lol he is 43 too. he will not open his mouth, but he makes sure that stops there. she gets that too. house decision , vacation , travel , cook and kids. those i work with H and of course, i respect her views. you mil has a narcissitic personality , they cannot be fixed. only boundaries work with them.