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Abusive Husband Hitting Me

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by cutebarbie, Nov 29, 2019.

  1. cutebarbie

    cutebarbie Silver IL'ite

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    Hi,
    I earlier posted in IL about my husbands behavior towards me and my kid. Later he apologized and I accepted.. but then only I came to know that he had read my IL post and acted to him like good.. now situation has become very worst. He started hitting me physically and also took away my passport and my child passport.. any advice??
     
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  2. joylokhi

    joylokhi Platinum IL'ite

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    @cutebarbie ,
    really pained to hear such things even in these days! you have not detailed your position for others to give any useful suggestions. Do you have any family support in terms of people close at hand ? The first thing is to reach out to immediate family for your safety.
     
  3. ashneys

    ashneys Platinum IL'ite

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    Call for help. Police / family / friends - anyone who can get you out. Search online for women help number for your area / city.

    Yours n your child’s safety is the most important thing. What if he hit you n you get gravely injured? Protect yourself first. Get safe.
     
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    Sunshine04 Platinum IL'ite

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    Where do you live.
    Next time he hits you, call 911, police.
    GOD HELPS THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES
     
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  5. Amulet

    Amulet IL Hall of Fame

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    The member posted earlier that she is in one of the gulf countries, where a husband hitting a woman is not an unusual thing. Holding a passport is also something that employers of maids, and labourers have been doing as a matter of control over their chattels.:
    Here is a quote from a previous thread:
    I have been married for 8 years and I have a kid aged 4yrs old. As my DH is working in gulf country, me and kid moved with him last yr. it's been 1.5 years we r staying together. Previously I was staying in India in my father house with my kid. My in laws are cruel to me and my kid as I had a love cum arranged marriage which they didn't like.
    Now the problem is, i have no frnds or family in this place. I have thyroid, pcod, nerves issues after c section. After a big struggle I had my baby. Now I don't have the previous energy or good health. I always feel tired and body pain 24/7.
    Kid is going to school and doing very average at school.
    DH leaves home at 7 and come home by 8.. sometimes 9 or even later. Some days he come by 7.30.. even after coming home he doesn't spend time with the kid.. he keeps using his mobile phone.. like when entering the house itself he would be watching some videos or movies or some chattings.
    The OP's situation is tough to resolve through the local police. She needs to contact the Indian Embassy if there is any danger to herself or the child.
     
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    sokanasanah IL Hall of Fame

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    If he read your post, then it may not be the best idea to seek help under that same ID, no? Protect yourself first even as you work out an exit strategy.
    :beer-toast1:
     
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    Dhamini Platinum IL'ite

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  9. cutebarbie

    cutebarbie Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks for all your kind suggestions.. verbal conversations are making things worse.. if that is avoided then everything is controllable.. hitting is not going in a serious way.. I also started fighting with him.. from my side, I can see little change in his behavior since the beginning.. now he started loving the child much more than initial days.. he is also having health issues.. the thing is I want every issues to settle down soon and live happily
     

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