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About How Many Grams Of Gold Jewelry Is Typically Given By The Bride's Parents?

Discussion in 'Jewelry & Accessories' started by rupar, Jun 12, 2018.

  1. rupar

    rupar New IL'ite

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    Hello,
    As a mother of two daughters in their early and late teens, I would like to know how many grams of gold jewelry (or items) do the bride's parents give? I know there would be a huge variance, but just trying to get a good idea on the trend these days.
    I don't remember exactly how many grams of gold jewelry my parents gave me, but I got 2 necklaces, a few pairs of earrings, a pair of regular bangles, a pair of slightly fancy bangles, a mangalyam chain with its accessories, and a pair of diamond earring. This was in the late 1990s.
    Whenever I have visited the big jewelry stores (in Bangalore) the past few years, they are always packed with people buying. So I am wondering if indeed a lot of jewelry is given these days so I can start planning from now.
    Thanks in advance for your time and input.
    rupar
     
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  2. nemesis

    nemesis Platinum IL'ite

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    The numbers used to be 100 in those times when they were gloating about it; these days it's a lot subdued- maybe wealth levels surpassed to consider gold as a gift at all.

    The young ones in my family circle aren't interested in jewellery and with the gender ratio favoring women and equality being the word, jewellery is more of a girl's personal desire than the standard accessories to be fitted before marriage.

    Me thinks a good education that makes her financially independent is a better arsenal than gold and gifts.

    PS: i terribly hate jewellers and my answer maybe biased.
     
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    Well it all depends on ones financial status and how much you can afford. Also depends on the guys side who may or may not demand.
    I have seen cases where if 1 kg gold is given no matter if the gal is educated or not she gets many proposals !

    It also depends on the community since in some communities it’s a must to give lots of gold and in some not mandatory .

    If at all you are interested you can start collecting for both of them during their birthdays or every now and then to reduce the burden.
     
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    GeetaKashyap IL Hall of Fame

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    Totally agree with @nemesis n @shravs3.

    Gold is almost a meaningless investment with poor appreciation, today. But we still love it. Collecting in bits and pieces may be a nice idea to build your stock in any case. Beware of cheating by the jewellers; as lay persons we get cheated most often on the purity, weight and pricing.:(
     
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    It is possible that you are given 20-25 sovereigns (8 grams per sovereign).
     
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    Sangeeta85 Gold IL'ite

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    U can buy the gold then jewelry since u may never know what they would like later .. I did that to my parents just one thing they had bought for me before and I asked them for different ones at the time of marriage ..
    How much it’s up to u and as @shravs3 said ...
     
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    @nemesis, @shravs3, @GeetaKashyap, @poovai, @Sangeeta85
    Thank you all for the feedback. It has been very helpful.

    Completely agree that in these days education is a top priority. Any kind of gold investment is only after making sure education expense is met. Plus the generation now a days like very light weight and fancy jewelry.

    However, my situation is slightly different. We are settled outside India. My husband follows the policy - "No demand, no buy", i.e. unless I demand/pester for any piece of jewelry, he will not buy anything. In almost 20 years of marriage, on the two occasions I asked for jewelry, he agreed and bought.
    He has a couple of rental properties in India, but I never know how much income was earned from it and how much is in the bank account there.
    It so happened that I got a chance to visit India every year for the past 3 years. The first time I went, I bought some small pieces of jewelry for my kids. He never opposed it and readily paid for the jewelry from the money in India. I took advantage of that and the other two times, I bought small stuff like a lightweight necklace set of less than 15gms, etc. So in some sense I have started building up the items one by one whenever I can.
    I just wanted to know in general what is the trend now a days. That way I can buy a little bit whenever I can.
     
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    HazelPup Platinum IL'ite

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    Invest in gold bars so that you can buy jewelry later according to girls wish. I know someone who keeps buying gold every year for their daughters birthday. Personally I am not interested in any jewelry other than my basic everyday wear. Better to invest in their college fund which is skyrocketing these days.
     
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    I think most of the men are like tat ;):yum:
     
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    @HazelPup
    Thanks for your input. It is a good idea. I also read on a different forum on this site that bars are preferable over coins if you want to convert to jewelry later.
     
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