I am sure quite a number of our members would have gone through my post-"Dear Srikkanth" in the forum parenting and kids. In retrospect to this post I am starting a new thread. This has deliberately been posted in articles and middles since it is more about the present generation of youth, their outlook, their attitudes and their expectations. One year has flown by and my son has completed his first year in college with good grades. He is here on a short vacation and wherever he is, in hostel or at home, the laptop is his soul mate. Besides the fact that he uses the laptop for a lot of free tutorials that he gets online to update himself in Linux, the other things he uses for are purely for watching movies and other English serials which he gets from peer sharing. The other day I happened to walk into his room to hand him a cup of coffee when a sideward glance at the laptop screen gave me a shock of my life! He was busy on the desktop PC and he did not notice me coming in. The screen on the laptop displayed a nude woman (Topless)! For a moment I was speechless! I was in two minds whether to ask him for an explanation or not! I could just mumble out-" Whats this obscenity on your laptop? I didn't expect this of you!" I didn't wait for a reply and left the room.I felt a numb pain somwhere in my heart. It took some time to recollect myself. Then I went back to his room and just said,' Don't display this screen when dad is around. He would be badly upset." May be I was a different mother. Anybody in my place would have lost composure at such a time. I remembered one of my friends sharing her experience with me. Her son, when he was in the final year of his college had worn a tee-shirt with some filthy writings on it. She told me that she had made a big fuss over it and had made him remove it before he left home, but not before a big argument between mother and son ensued which left both of them bitter. Now, I started wondering, are we modern parents being too close to our children, treating them as friends and sharing everything with them which has made them so open that they do not feel ashamed to show us the darker side of their youthful minds. May be I failed to give him the privacy which in the western countries is most valued. Thoughts led me back to my childhood days. As the innocence of childhood enters the gates of teenage and adoloscence, the harmones start playing havoc with our thoughts and actions. I am sure every generation would have gone through the harmonal disturbances and its accompanying trysts. The hormones affect even the most timid persons in some way or the other and indulge them, if not in some perversions, at least to the extent of going through some soft pornographic books. But we have never been as open as the kids of this generation as to let our parents know about it. Compare this with the unabashed display of behaviour as the one that I started the thread with! Days went by and I was waiting for an opportunity for a frank and open talk with my son. The teacher in me gave me the courage to speak with him without hesitation or embarassment. I wanted to know what exactly went through his mind as well as that of others of his age when they looked at these pictures. I was curious to know about the mindset of the new generation. I thought that this article could be of help to a lot of parents of the upper middle class to cope with such experiences in various forms with their wards. My son had just returned after watching the movie 'Sivaji' and was in a mood to talk. I had returned home from a meeting and needed a break. To add to it my hubby called me up to inform that he would not be joining us for dinner as he had a meeting. So I decided for a simple meal and sat down to chat with my son. After a little bit on 'Sivaji', abruptly I asked, " Okay, I would like to enlighten myself about todays youth. You have told me that your friends (even the ones with a family with very modern outlook) hide even the not so objectionable serials like "Friends" and "The American pie"in their pc-s and watch them when there parents are away. You have had no such problems. May be that is the reason why you were not bothered to have a different display screen on your laptop when you were at home. Genuinely, I was upset about it but I appreciate your attitude of not having hidden things from me. I want to know one thing, are you really interested in such obsceneties and get pleasure by watching them? Or is there some other reason behind this?" My son kept quite for some time. May be he didn't expect this topic from me out of the blue. After a thoughtful silence, he said-" When you are in college and especially in hostel, you have to merge with peer groups otherwise you would be a loner. Its a question of survival. I am least interested in these pictures and to tell you the truth, quite a lot of my friends watch **** sites on the web. I have no such interest and they do not appeal to me. And yet, to be accepted amongst the peer I have to follow certain norms. I thought you know me very well and so I didn't want to be a hippocrat by hiding things such as these. There is one more thing I want to reveal to you now! You know, I have boozed with my friends two or three times over the past one year!" Here was yet another jolt! I just couldn't speak! My mouth had dried up! I started wondering-'Should I have started the discussion at all!' Before I could respond, he said-" Mummy, the fact that I am not hiding anything from you should put you out of worries. You can rest assured, I will not become an addict or make it into a habit. These are all peer pressures we have to put up with. It is just a passing phase. All I want is your trust and understanding!" I felt like a confused Arjuna in front of Lord Krishna in the battlefield of life amidst the generation next! Ofcourse, I had to take his words and pray that he didn't go astray amidst 'peer pressure'. Dear friends! Iam sure quite a lot amongst us would be having teenaged sons. I do not know how many mothers would be enterprising enough to hold frank discussions with them and also be strong enough to digest their revelations! I wonder whether there is an equal set of problems amongst mothers with girls too, if not more. This post is not to frighten anybody, but as I said at the outset it is more to get an insight of the modern day youth and their problems and also to mentally prepare ourselves to deal with them without sensitising them. I am sure, with our proper guidance and loving care they would blossom into lovely adults and bring fame to this ancient and culturally rich country.