A Tricky Situation About Wedding

Hello all,

I need your insight and perspective on the situation below

Girl x aged 34 migrated to a 'foreign' country last year on a permanent residency during the pandemic. She met boy Y there aged 34 through a matrimonial website who is also settled in the same country on permanent residency. The two met a couple of times and decided they can enter a marital relationship with each other.

Girl returned to her country ( in Africa) after spending 1.5 months getting her permanent residence there, since this was in the middle of the pandemic and her parents needed her too with them.
She thought of returning to the new country within an year.
The two kept chatting with each other since they had liked each other and had already given their word to one another.

After two months the boy's mother ( boy's family is in India) gives a call to the girl and asks to talk with her mother regarding marriage. The girl's mother says that since there is a pandemic and it is difficult for everyone to travel hence all cannot come together to discuss marriage, and they cannot agree to marry their daughter without meeting them and especially without meeting the boy in person.
Boy's mother bluntly says that she needs to know the answer right away since she cannot waste time and needs to start looking for other girls otherwise.

The boy and the girl continue to talk and he also tells her that he will ask his mother to not look for other girls. Girl and girl's mother are anyway ok with either case since they are not desperate for the girls marriage and would patiently wait for everything to fall in place.

The boy's mother gets restless meanwhile and one day calls the girl and ask her her answer to which the girl obviously says yes. The mother is overjoyed to hear this and seals the deal as done, then starts talking about marriage halls, mangalsutra etc.

The girls parents also decide to accept this decision and agree with the boy's family's suggestion of having all the discussions on video chatting, thought they feel in their heart that their opinion was skipped.

This is what is decided

Since the boy will be getting his annual leave in June, the wedding will be held in India according to his leave dates
The girl together with her parents will travel to India (amidst the pandemic) and will host a two day wedding in their city in India. The boy's family will come from their city, a total of 50 people and their stay and the whole wedding cost only to be bore by the girls family.
Note that they gradually started hinting the girl's family to have all the prewedding rituals done according to their beliefs. The two belong to different subcastes.
So basically the girl's family paying for everything which is going to be done in the boy's style. They would only be nodding their heads

Now the current situation.

Flights to India from the girls country as well as from the boy's country( the country where the boy currently is) are banned and none can travel to India for the wedding to happen.

The girl's family suggests that since there are no restrictions between their country and the boy's current country then he can come to their country on his own( there is no quarantine rule) they can marry them and the two can leave together for the new country.

The boy says he is not interested in this since his parents cannot come to the wedding and his brother and SIL will not get leave. Note that the girl's brother and SIL were anyway not going to be able to attend the wedding since they are also in a different country from where he cannot travel moreover the wedding was scheduled according to the groom's leave not any other person's.

The boy's suggestion is that the girl should travel to his place on her own since she is now also a permanent resident there now and anyway moving there, and they can have their marriage registered there or have a live in relationship.

Now the question
Should the girl's family agree to this? When they were ready to bend over backwards and do everything to have the two married in India, is it not reasonable that now seeing the current situation the boy should travel to the girls country for the wedding?
His reasoning is perhaps, if his parents are not going to be there then why should the girls family be involved? Isn't this selfish of him?
Should a girl not expect that a guy at least comes to her place to her marry her as it has always happened traditionally? They don't expect him to pay for any cost of the wedding.
The guy does not want to move out of his comfort zone( and perhaps spend on flight expense) and take a flight to marry his fiance. Is it even worth marrying such a man? A man who doesn't even care to give his wife a wedding

Please throw in your views

 

Thanks for your reply.
Should the girl agree to go there alone and marry him on her own or should she hold her ground and insist on him coming to her country to marry her?
A bit of the background.
Since it is an arranged marriage there was no proposal, no wooing, no flowers no nothing.
The girl simply said yes on the second meeting and the boy also said yes.
The boy's family was/is also not going to host any reception, any pooja to welcome the couple. No honeymoon planned either
So nothing at all to make the girl feel special from the boy or the boy's side.
Only the girl's parents were doing everything to make their darling daughter feel like a princess on her special day. Now the boy is not allowing even this to happen, and all he has to do is land at the wedding venue

 

Thank you for your detailed reply.

So you are of the opinion that it is not selfish of him to disagree to fly down to the girl's and have the wedding done without his parents?
I was thinking that rather than having the wedding without parents or relatives of either party it would be better that at least the girl's parents are there and conduct the wedding.
Having a wedding on their own in a new country is also going to be very difficult.
Is the girl being selfish by expecting him to come to her place?

No offence, I am just sincerely looking for people's opinions.