A guys story !

This is so silly....

I feel u screwed up ur own life just for an infatuation.

 

You thought life was a movie that you open up something on your Honeymoon and girl says I will wait for you...You screwed up some ones life just because of your immaturity. Now that girl has a tag of Divorcee... :rant

 

Almost everyone in the arranged marriage scene feels confused among the prospects and doesn't quite know what's right and ultimately takes a chance. Yes, many do think about 'what if ...' or 'if only ...' depending on how it turns out, but end up living the life that results.

In your case, you were really unhappy with A or (more) infatuated with B. Even now you shouldn't despair. Go see what B is doing!

I hate name like A and B. Next time if there is C, please tell us the story as Ash, Bipasha and Celina or Ashwini, Bharani and Critika... makes it easier to read!

Good luck!

 

And appealing too :rotfl

 

Casual and cool sarma at it! LOL!

Or pictures! :hiya

 

:rotfl......................

 

Hello,

Sorry to hear about your ordeal. From a female perspective, here goes:

1. Your gut instincts during your bride hunting were spot on. You should have acted on those. Like majority of guys and gals, you gave in to parental pressure.
2. I did not understand what you meant by "co-operation"? Did A just nod her head to whatever you said?
3. About the girl B, are you sure she was interested in you? Smiles, greetings are fine but did she actually propose to you? It seems like she just considered you as another friend
4. I think you wanted to start out your married life on the basis of honesty. I am assuming this was the reason you told your fiancee about girl B. But what was the need to bring that up again on the "first day of your honeymoon"? Obviously no girl wants to hear that from her new husband!
From your post, it seems like you didn't approach your marriage with a clear mind. You were fixated with the girl B which was not fair to your wife.

I hope you learn from your experiences and make better decisions in your future.

 

First impressions especially about looks do carry over even after marriage. So I see that your main folly is you did carry on even if you were not attracted to the girl. What do you mean by being cooperative? Was she nodding to whatever you are saying, empathizing all along with you? I see the following things which worked against your marriage...

1. You carrying on into the marriage despite being in two minds and being too afraid to call it off after engagement. Why were you so timid?

2. Your ex wife calling her parents every often is what I could see as one of the main reasons why your relationship with her soured. I appeal to every one here, this is one of the things that can piss off any spouse however understanding he or she is.

3. By calling her parents she has only complicated the matters more rather than attempting to solving them. Your impression of her being cooperative goes of out of window there.

4. Your parents rushing you into the marriage based on their interests (about girls family, status) which you don't share with them

5. Despite having had a lot of time to ponder over - like shopping trips, time after engagement and call it off, you were just indecisive and afraid.

6. You telling her that you were afraid of her parents may have what encouraged her to speak more with them to help her set you "straight". What were you afraid of?

7. This marriage looked to me as something that both sides taken as to get over with without doing due diligence on whether you both like each other.

 

Only your last post says a little about your sufferings, and that your parents are now by your side and also feel responsible for your mess....

The first one only conveyed in brief that you were infatuated by someone, yet you chose to marry another girl, then also told her abt the past(when actually there was no valid past which sounds a little immature to me. You wud probably understand when you think frm your honey's point of view - new marriage, and during honeymoon her husband speaks abt his past....this must have appeared very fishy to her in the first place).... I feel the later unhappy stages of married life that followed were nuthin but repercussions of what you began.

And yeah - Its your life friend. I found it silly only wrt your original post. And what happened after your marriage is again as you said a long long story, and you would know it better than all of us.

Whatever said and done, I wish you find peace within yourself soon.