I made acquaintance with a lady few months back. She seemed very distraught one day and wanted to share about her life. She seemed to be about 34 years. She was worried about her marriage. She said she wanted to get married when she was younger but that time her father said she should do job, because her brother was just a student so she has to take responsibility. She had a low paying job and their family expenses were not high(father had a low paying govt job). Her eldest sister married, and younger sister not interested in taking any responsibility just did love marriage. Now she said it is difficult to marry because no one wants to marry a woman whose younger sister got married first because people always imagine something must be wrong with the elder sister that parents did the younger one's marriage first. Still she got 2 proposals but did not work out, one family said she has to quit her present job and move to his home state. Other was too much interested in her salary. She told me she rejected both proposals otherwise how she will financially take care of her parents after marriage . She seemed to be telling the truth. I told her I admire her for doing the right thing for her parents. But after so many months Im thinking tomorrow her brother will get job, get married- after that what about her? Will she have same place place in her parent's family, or will they then just marry her off to anybody? Ive seen such cases- in our patriarchal society- till parents are not settled they delay marriage of elder daughter who is earning . Once parent save a house etc to give their son, they try to do her marriage. After that , these women suffer a lot when someone married them at advanced age only for their salary- so they are harassed and controlled and used like atm entire life. I have no right to assume these things about her family- but the fact that they had 3 daughters and last child is son, the fact that her father delayed her marriage and also discouraging the few proposals.It's not that the parents have bad intention- just thinking how complicated the future becomes when elder sister is unmarried and brother gets married. All this makes me feel, I could not give her any right advice .Even I dont know what I should have told her. But i felt that time, she is doing right thing for her parents. But I have lost touch with her right now.Really I admire her.