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  1. iyerviji

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    ,The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched….They must be felt with the heart… — Helen Keller

    The beauty of life is finding someone who is going to love you even more than you could ever love yourself.

    I thought this write up will fit in here as I am going to write my experience in married life in which some may not agree with me as the younger generation has different opinions. Also sorry if I have hurt anyone's feelings.

    January 24th this year I will be compelting 40 years of married life. Hope I am there to celebrate the same. Some might say its only 40 years and not 50 years. But I feel if you are satisifed with your married life every year its a celebration though my husband does not celebrate Birthdays and Anniversaries. I am just the opposite like to celebrate any treasured moments and enjoy life. Also some might feel there is still time why write about it now .The reason is I cant wait till that time so thought of writing today only as my thoughts are fresh, some may say write it down and post it on that day. I dont have that habit also because whenever I think of writing I shoudl do it immediately.

    Marriage needs adjustment and should not have any ego. Thats what I feel after completing 40 years. In my young age I also used to feel that my dh is not my Mr. Right but spending with him some years felt that He is the Right Choice. He was always a simple person and never interested in dressing up. I used to feel odd going with him as I like to dress up nicely and be the best. Cant blame him also because he has come up in a hard way with 9 sisters and 3 three brothers. He had the responsbility of getting his sisters married and also to take care of his nephews. When I got married my brother in law was with us and also two nephews who got a job in Bombay. They were all experts in cooking and in the beginning I was not so good in cooking , so used to feel bad in front of them. But they never made me feel like that and always used to say we feel we are with our parents because we live with comfort and are left to do as we wish.

    Though my dh was a very short tempered person and many times used to get angry and I used to feel bad but still he was there with me whenever I needed badly. In the earlier days he used to send his brother with me when I wanted to go out which I used to feel bad. We used to have difference of opinion in the beginning but there was never a day that we went to sleep without talking. I could not do without taking to him

    When I was pregnant he used to take good care of me. He used to help me in the kitchen. He had his own ways in the kitchen and I wanted my way but could not. But still I was happy only because I gave up and acted according to his wish. There came a time when I wanted him to be always by my side and used to miss him when he is not there. During my delivery he, his brother and his nephews and niece all were with me looking after me . I used to wait for my husband when I was in the hospital.

    He does not like to spend much and was very economic and I am just the opposite , wanted a luxurious life but adjusted in the circumstances we were. Because of his economic nature only he could save a lot little by little and today in our retired life we are having a peaceful life. When I used to see my friends I also used to feel like having a house with all modern furnitures but since we could not afford everything I used to be happy with whatever we had.

    I am happy that in retired life we are able to go all the temples and religious functions and poojas. He is doing lot of social work and also helping when someone dies which is punya and not an easy job. I am blessed to be his wife.

    Ok dearies I dont want to bore you all more. Only wanted to tell you all that though there will be lot of difference of opinion between couples, arugements etc. , if you have patience by not arguing and keeping quiet , in the long run you will be happy. Dont take decisions fast. I know many are there who are not happy in married life and feel they have not made the right choice but what is written in our fate only we will get so should be happy and be a role model to our children

    True love means that you care for another person's happiness more than your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be.

    The Art Of Marriage

    A good marriage must be created.
    In marraige the little things become the big things.

    It is never being too old to hold hands.
    It is remembering to say I Love You at least once a day.
    It is never going to sleep angry.
    It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
    It is standing together facing the world.
    It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
    It is speaking words of appreciation
    and demonstarting gratitude in thoughtful ways.
    It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
    Itis giving each other room to grow.
    It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

    It is not only marrying the right person.
    It is being the right partner.
     
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    Thanks for sharing your points of view-vijima
    All the best wishes
     
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    Vijima, really nice to read your thoughts... wish you more and more happier years of togetherness.
    It can surely be enlightening to cover 4 decades with so many diverse relationships and responsibilities.... really happy for you and salute you for your patience and dedication.

    Howz ur health now?
     
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    Seetha dear thanks for always encouraging me with your fbs
     
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    Shilpama dear thanks for your sweet message and good wishes.and compliments. My health is good by God's grace, thanks for your concern
     
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    Good luck iyerviji.Very nice write-up.Thanks for the valuable suggestions.

    Thanks.
     
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    thanks vijjima for sharing ur views and it is very nicely put. wish u many more happy years .
     
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    Super like for this satatement alone iverji
     
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    Veronica dear thanks for your wishes and compliments.Glad yu liked it
     
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    Thanks Stressful dear
     

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