LIVING life while ttc

Hi Haysa,

yes.. we werent ready before as we had to settle down and then plan. That is why we had to postpone baby planning. So it took almost 1 1/2yrs for us to start planning.Then when we started i feel ill and took around a month to recover. may be God has reason for everything he does. By God's grace i've got a very supportive and caring husband. Let's all hope for the best.

 

hi
yes TCC has taken the life away from me. i have been married for two years and we wanted a baby from day one. but during first year of marriage we did not think about it much. i got myself tested initial tests but hubby never showed any intrest in tests . later when nothing happened he got sperm test and we ended up having low morphology and bordeline results. also laproscopy showed my one tube is blocked.
during this TCC journey i had to leave my husband and take up job in an other city so be close to my clinic and pay for fertility treatment. not only am not having any success in TCC but am not living with my husband any more. he can manage to visit me once for two days every month. its becomming very hard for me. i cry all the time and my husband mood gets bad as he thinks am blaming him. i donot have baby and i donot have my home to live in donot know when this wait will be over and i will be togather with my husband.
now that i have got a good job i feel my husband doesnot want me to let go of it. he is planning to build a home and every thing but i need some thing else. in short TCC is putting distance between us.
i have left all my friends because they are mother's of two now, do not go to relatives and donot make new friends just want to be left alone

 

Hi,
We 've been married for a little over 2 years. As it was an arranged marriage and we both wanted to get to know each other better, we decided not to have kids immediately. We wanted to do all the things we can before having kids so traveled a LOT during these 2 years.

So, after our 2nd anniversary in March, we started TTC... Gosh, and since then I've been stressed out so much that am not able to enjoy everyday life
The waiting to 'O' phase, the BD-ing, the 2 week wait, darn, why is this so difficult? First couple of months was real bad - I used to 'experience' all classic symptoms of pregnancy and swore that I was pregnant...only to end up with AF Witsend
Now am trying not to obsess so much (thats what am saying) but end up browsing the internet on symptoms and reading threads on FF and twoweekwait website.. :bonk
So am again hopeful this cycle, lets see what happens and dH has promised to take me to Miami if we dont get pregnant this cycle .. yea, some kind of stress buster so am little bit okay now that I know we'll go for vacation **Feeling guilty too** okay, am ranting as usual... time out!

 

Hi Ladies,

I am in similar situation like many of you. I see many peoples's stories resemble mine and feel so bad seeing many others like me.
I feel so depressed many times even though I try to convince myself many times hoping things would become better.
About me: I used to have irregular periods and so started consulting gynic,endocrynologist after 1 yr of my mrrg as I wanted to conceive asap. Initially I was diagnised for PCOS and so was on metformin and then clomid for 6 mths and I use to count on days to become pregnant. But everything was ok at that time because I use to have lot of hopes that atleast there are many ways like IVF etc.
But there was no luck after me being on medication(clomid+ metformin) for 6 mths. I even did HSG. My dr refered me to fertility specialist. We then got my dh for semen test thinking it is just as part of normal checklist test. But then we had heart breaking news that he had "no sperm". we did twice with no luck. then i hoped atleast it would be just blockage (1 kind of azoospermia) which can be cleared. but unfortunately it turned out to be production problem. We then did Testicular Biopsy hoping atleast some sperms would be found. But even that gave no results. Dr advised us about donor sperm or adoption. We cried every minute but convinced ourself that may be thats Gods destiny. We started trying for adoption. But we realised that we cannot even do that as we neither have a citizenship nor a gc. We are in 485 final stage hoping GC would come any time. But nothing is moving forward. We are neither able to live here nor go back to India. If we go there now without GC we can never come back here. we shud start all our career from scratch. My mind is so confused.
Anyway my DH started using some Homeo medicine which so far showed no improvement.
We are planning to do Micro TESE hoping for atleast 1 sperm. even though we know chances are very less.

Not able to Adopt because of Immigration Status.
Not able to conceive as my dh has no sperm
Greencard...nothing is moving fwd.
Planning for Micro TESE even though chances are less
Big confused status...

I hear many people saying its just 3 yrs of ur mrrg why are you so worried. But they have no clue how every minute is like for me.....only we know what really 3 yrs means. Anyways just wanted to share my story too. My prayers are always there for everyone and hope we all have our problems resolved soon.

Look back and thank God.
Look forward and trust God.
Look around and serve God.
Look within and find God! BTW this is a great saying brought some cheers on my face.

 

Dear saiblessus,

I like your username.Dont worry! Sai will definitely bless you..He has saved me from tough situations and showed me the correct/good path to proceed.

Iam really very sorry to hear about your situation...Iam sure the MESA will give you a good result.Have you guys tried Testicular Biopsy?.

Ask your DH to have soaked almonds(Without peeling the outer skin).Almonds should be soaked for min 8 hrs(Night time is the best).Ask him to have it as the first thing in the morning after brushing his teeth...

This works wonders.Believe me! One of my friends husband was in the similar situation as your DH and after taking almonds for sometime,they were able to find sperms in Testicular biopsy.

Iam not sure about the details related to Adoption.

Let me know if you need further details.

May Sai bless you!

 

RG and HV,

Yes we already did TESE but had no luck. So our last resort is for Micro TESE. Hope Sai does some miracle. I will start with almonds from today. Also we will start consuming 1 spoon of Honey and Cinnamon powder. Have read that it improves sperm count. My DH is pure vegetarian who doesn't smoke or even drink tea/coffee. but still having this problem. very strange and am not able to digest this till now even after 2 yrs.

yeah we all should keep ourself busy as much as we can and be happy. Life is short. we shud always see the better part of the lives. may be we have much better life than many.

 

To Saiblessus, My friend had a similar situation, but her husband got some surgery done and the next month she conceived and she now is a proud mother of a 1 yr old. Having zero sperm count is bad but definetly not the end of the world so please do not loose hope.:thumbsup