Family Trips

desichica · May 31, 2016

Update: We ended up in separate rooms. As Rihana mentioned, it is part of the problem. What i left out of the story is.. The last time, dh and i went for weekend getaway (alone) was our first wedding anniversary. We will be married for 4 years this year. Dh likes to do everything with family. That means no alone trips and no date dinners (the last date dinner was probably 2 years ago.) I was hoping to have some us time and re-kindle some spark from the trip. We get along fine so we had fun. We are really good friends but we have intimacy issues lately. It is more related to losing spark. Different place sometimes help (or i would think it would help)

desichica · May 31, 2016

also another update: it helped with bonding better with MIL.. smh

Lathasv · May 31, 2016

desichica said: ↑

also another update: it helped with bonding better with MIL.. smh
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One way it is good

Rihana · May 31, 2016

SGBV said: ↑

Are you an Indian? If so, what is this fuss about practicing something which is fairly common in your country?
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Eh? If one is Indian, and something is fairly common practice, then one loses the right to ask for something different?

Yes, it may not common in the US. But you can't take that Indian from you, even though you have a green card.
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Well, we give up water and use toilet paper, why not give up one more Indian thing?

Unless you or the other person has any serious problems like snoring, passing gas, bad odor, body rash etc, which could make sharing uncomfortable, there is nothing to fuss about.
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So, only physical or nasal incompatibility is acceptable reason to fuss? Mental incompatibility isn't? Surprising how you are making a checklist that you say is applicable to all.

Your husband has suggested this to cut the cost, and make it more fun.
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So it gets written in stone? What about wife's idea of fun and wife's view of what cost is worth cutting?

We go out for trips to spend max time out of the hotel room, so it will make us dead tired at the end of the day. So, no matter what we will fall asleep the moment we hit the bed. So, there is nothing much to worry about the other person in the same room.
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Wholesale assumptions. People go out for many reasons. Not every one, and not every trip is for using the room just to crash and sleep.

Also the other person is your family member anyways.
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It is one thing to share rooms in a house during occasion like wedding or when there are many guests. Another when out of the home.

Never ceases to amaze me how the Indian woman is forever expected to adjust except if there is clear and present danger to her life. Her sanity is often considered dispensable.

kcb · May 31, 2016

desichica said: ↑

also another update: it helped with bonding better with MIL.. smh
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Sometimes keeping distance with DH for one night helps to bond with MIL

MalStrom · May 31, 2016

Rihana said: ↑

Eh? If one is Indian, and something is fairly common practice, then one loses the right to ask for something different?

Well, we give up water and use toilet paper, why not give up one more Indian thing?

So, only physical or nasal incompatibility is acceptable reason to fuss? Mental incompatibility isn't? Surprising how you are making a checklist that you say is applicable to all.

So it gets written in stone? What about wife's idea of fun and wife's view of what cost is worth cutting?

Wholesale assumptions. People go out for many reasons. Not every one, and not every trip is for using the room just to crash and sleep.

It is one thing to share rooms in a house during occasion like wedding or when there are many guests. Another when out of the home.

Never ceases to amaze me how the Indian woman is forever expected to adjust except if there is clear and present danger to her life. Her sanity is often considered dispensable.
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Rihana Ma'am:

Justanotherwife · May 31, 2016

@Rihana for President

yellowmango · May 31, 2016

Sharing a room with mil....not my idea of a vacation.
I wonder if my husband would look kindly at him being put up in a room with my father.

abla · Jun 1, 2016

kcb said: ↑

Sometimes keeping distance with DH for one night helps to bond with MIL
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who is really dying here to bond with MIL ?

adimad · Jun 1, 2016

Thankyou Rihana for this response... Super like.

Rihana said: ↑

Eh? If one is Indian, and something is fairly common practice, then one loses the right to ask for something different?

Well, we give up water and use toilet paper, why not give up one more Indian thing?

So, only physical or nasal incompatibility is acceptable reason to fuss? Mental incompatibility isn't? Surprising how you are making a checklist that you say is applicable to all.

So it gets written in stone? What about wife's idea of fun and wife's view of what cost is worth cutting?

Wholesale assumptions. People go out for many reasons. Not every one, and not every trip is for using the room just to crash and sleep.

It is one thing to share rooms in a house during occasion like wedding or when there are many guests. Another when out of the home.

Never ceases to amaze me how the Indian woman is forever expected to adjust except if there is clear and present danger to her life. Her sanity is often considered dispensable.
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