My husband cheating for 15 years

Too bad you let your son overhear all this or talked like this with your husband in your son's presence.

 

Hugs to you..

Whatever you do, do it when you are clear headed. Right now, you are in shock and weak. Take deep breaths, recover and mentally check yourself out !

It must be such a shock after such a long term cheating ! It is not easy to digest and move to the next stage. Just hang in there !

Once you have recovered from the initial shock, jote down, what you would advice a friend in your position, and do that ! Pretty much all of us will share advices. But you should be ready enough to take those decisions and live with these decisions through your entire life.

May God give you all the strength possible !!!

 

It is pity. My DH was a sailor. I know many families living as victims like you, without even knowing the truth. They may complete their life without even knowing that their DH was a cheater.

Fortunately or Unfortunately you realized the truth at this later state.
Following points makes your life more miserable.

• You are a House wife with no income.
• You are financially and emotionally dependent upon this cheater.
• You have a son as well.
• 20 years of married life means you are middle aged too.

Options you have at this moment.

• Forgive him and continue in this relationship like a vegetable. ( It was not an accident. He is habituated to it and may not even regret about his activities.)
• You may risk your health and life, if you tolerate his activities and continue with this relationship. Unless he put a full stop to all his adventures and resume a life from ground zero. You may risk your son's character and life too by compromising with DH's lousy lifestyle.
• Separate from him, get alimony by proving adultery in the court and concentrate on your son's future.
• If you are educated / qualified, you may start to work / start some small scale business to keep you busy and financially independent. Do some social service as well to divert your mind from the unwanted thoughts / depression.