DH weird or am I over reacting?

There is no valid reason which should make you feel disgusted. Again, there is not even an inkling of cause for another fight.

It is his way of keeping his mom's memorabilia ! I still keep the twenty years old pocket note (almost torn and decrepit) which my Dad started for me for the purpose of developing English vocabulary , while I was a kid. Whenever I see it, I remember my Dad.

If I ever come to know that my wife (if at all) feels weird and disgusting about it , Oh My God ! I have no words to say, how cheap I would feel about her. Fortunately, I don't think, my wife would ever think that way !

 

some people are sentimental just like your Dh

Me too never let throw any thing from my parents.

When mt feelings cause no harm to any one then what's the point of changing or thinking too much

 

Now why is he forced to swallow words about his feelings for his mom? That doesn't bode well for the OP.

 

OP, its not weird. Because I DO that too! In fact, when I came to US from India - my mom made some barfi - and she packed it. I used to eat little by little everyday..It went bad after two months , but still I did not throw it away (yuck,right?). But whenever I would pick it up to put in the trash - i would remember my mom making it..And i would have tears in my eyes. It went on for a long time
There are some sentimental fools like us - your H is just one of us Go easy on him

 

Nothing to be worried about. We store all the letters (with covers), greeting cards, gifts (non edible) that we have received from either of our family members. Once in a while, while cleaning, will go over them, remember the memories and put them back in the closet.

 

Come on, OP, this is a bit too much. If your DH is more sentimental than you are about his mom, there's nothing for you to feel disgusted about or fight over. Let him be. If you aren't that sentimental about your mom, well, that's just you. Nothing wrong in that either. What he is doing seems to be pretty harmless, you don't need to set him right.
Live and let live.:thumbsup

 

I am not sentimental at all. I don't even save the greeting cards given to me properly. So I understand where you are coming from.

Not being able to understand his emotions combined with dislike towards his mom makes you feel like he values his mom over you. I don't think that the emotion you feel is disgust but jealousy...

There are some things we can control and some you can't. Your husband loves his mom. There are some emotional needs that only his mom can satisfy. Accept it because you cant change it. The sooner you get over it the happier you will be...

 

Feeling very bad for your DH that his wife will decide whether his own mom deserve his love or not...though you have already mentioned he never use his mom's word for you and she is also changing.

OP, I know you will not like my post but please keep your self at his mom's place and your son at DH place and then think ..

 

Most men have the habit of hoarding useless junk... may be their DNA still has some remnants of hunter/gatherers.. your DH is no different..don't draw too many conclusions from it.