is this normal??feeling depressed

Hi all,
I got engaged this Sunday & we were all happy that everything went v fine. During our chit chat sessions I asked my would be of how it all went. He was like there were many good things but food was not good. I did not yield to his complaint & instead explained how difficult it is to organize an event & some imperfections do happen. He told me that it is a v simple issue and it does happen in all marriages. Lets leave it & switched over.
Now, I am supposed to leave today to my job town and so though of calling my would be MIL to inform her the same. My mom called her and even before my mom opened her mouth, the lady started yelling that she felt v ashamed since the food was bad in the function. None of her guests liked the food it seems. Instead of traditional south Indian food, we opted for fried rice/ buffet type food. We also asked for thier suggestions & they were OK with the emnu. All of our guests were very much satisfied. The point is the lady was yelling it again & again of how it let her down. Her guests told that they won’t come to the marriage it seems. Are guests supposed to come for food or to give their blessings? The lady did not give a chance to my parents to speak. She was continuously shouting of is this the way to make curd rice, no salt in rice blah blah..We are a highly educated family with high moral values & culture. I am a good looking, confident girl placed in a very reputed organisation. We think twice before speaking anything. We accepted to this proposal because the guy is soft spoken and very disciplined & matured. I had got alliance from really great families but we all felt that though the guy may not be financially or education wise that competent, he will make a good husband & so we relented. Would be MIL is uneducated house wife & a widow (My would be had not even seen his father) with two children. Elder sister & younger is my man. Elder sister is the one who made this alliance work. She used to call us regularly, talk very sweetly till the alliance was fixed. After that she is maintaining a sort of distance from us. Their side had twenty guests out of which one particular man was the most complaining. HE came to me & enquired so many things about my profession, parents etc & I could see jealousy in his talks. He tried to pull me down but I did not let go my confidence. This lady was very sweet from the beginning but the way in which she reacted yesterday is plainly too rude & my parents were not able to take the shock. But to me she was very sweet wishing me good health. She also questioned my parents as to why they were talking to her in front of me. She hung up the phone saying that she just spoke her heart out. But my parents were hurt. I am totally confused
We tried reasoning out the exact reasons

1) Food is not good…fine...but this is not the way to express it. It depends on caterers..how can she accuse my parents? Its their function too. They did not spend a single penny nor did they help us out in anything.

2) I remember the guy saying that she will feel lonely & depressed as she has no one to talk. Even he does not talk much as he is busy though he loves her. She loves her son a lot & he is her world. Is it a sort of some psychological problem due to loneliness excessive pressure from relatives that she poured everything on us w/o thinking.

3) A single woman marrying off her innocent son to a really good family. Is it jealousy of her relatives?

We are planning to talk to the elder sister frankly & ask them clearly of their expectations. I felt really angry but my parents keep insisting that the guy is a gem of a person & it is ok to bear it for him. Is this normal in marriages? I am afraid of what would happen at this stage. Pl help…how to handle this?

 

Thank you all for the immediate responses..
THere has been problems in marriage right from the beginning. We had adjusted to all of their demands since we found that those were not that crucial like date of marriage & venue of marriage. We found them to be really good people but now things are getting worser.
One tricky situation is both of her children were not with her when she shouted. The guy went to work & the girl was in her in laws place. So how far they would accept & believe us is a big ?

In this juncture I really got restless and asked my mom to directly speak to the guy. He is a v patient listener. My mom explained him the situation & asked his feed back. He also straight on face told that he did not like the food but it is a small issue & we can manage it during marriage. My mom did not tell of all that the lady told & the guy told that he was not available at home when this happened. My mom also asked if this is the case now, how about after marriage? In case ppl dont like her cooking, & talk non sense Will you stand by my daughter or hurl her with all these...He assured her that he will take care of me & that she need'nt take this issue too seriously. THis problem has been happening in his house since sunday & he never revealed the intensity of it to me till now. He is very normal, v sweet as always but since I had seen my parents suffer I am not able to hide everything & talk freely to him.

The elder daughter has instructed the lady not to open her mouth. But the lady blurted out everything. She did not pick up the phone when my mom called her yesterday. My mom is determined to talk in a v sharp tone to the sister.

One more important thing is one of her guests is engaged with hall booking, catering business & it seems he is the one who complained the maximum. He gave my dad his contact details. Now the lady is telling that my dad should contact him regarding marriage & my dad clearly told a big no for this. He told whatever you want you people decide amongst yourself & tell us. He might get a big commission & hence he might have kindled it out.

What should I do now?