Problem with friend's dad.

Hearing such things make you very very low.
If your friend's father is only bread winner for entire family, your friend has to look out for jobs. These instincts will ruine entire family's life. you had mention she had younger siter too.

some times, you need to Act and not to react.

Mother always protect children. There is no harm is discussing with her(She might have observed all these and kept quiet to protect her family ). She will have some solution compared to any one since she will be seeing these acts from the begining of their life. Mom's love is always pure and can trust without any doubts. She is the only person can give 100% solution to this problem.

I really cant think of any other thing. If its brother/cousin/BIL or any one else, you can slap him . Dont know how to act here...

Only thing is, She can avoid him as much as she can. Let her not depend on him .

Thanks.

 

That's just awful! So absolutely pervy of him! To think that way of his own daughter whom he raised from her babyhood! Words fail me.

Please make sure your friend is safe in her own home, I wouldn't advice this normally but since the circumstances aren't exactly normal, I feel it's best for your friend to have as little to do with her father as she can and never alone with him.
Or only communicate with him in the presence of other members of her family.

As for what else he does in his own time, like watching ****, that's his own business- he's an adult and the only one who should talk to him about it is his wife - ie, your friend's mother, assuming that your friend would want to let her mom know about her father's current exploits.

 

I wish that was always true. But if you check out stories of little girls who went through sexual abuse at home - a lot of them say the mother knew, and yet chose not to do a thing about it, for fear of losing the man or their current lifestyle.
Even the mothers who were in the dark, when told about it, went to the extent of not believing their daughter and took the side of the man!

 

the most important thing to worry abt here is how to keep that younger sibling safer from a perverted man.

 

Tell her to be strong and always alert for both of them. Sister should be educated about good/bad touches and how to respond without getting shocked if such situation arrives, from any men. Then as slowly drop hints about fathers behavior. Tell her to get a job and move out asap, put sister in hostel or take with herself. I am pretty sure that mother is well aware about his nature but she sure must be thinking that he would exclude his daughters giving him benefit of doubt. But we cant expect much help from her. she has confided in you which is excellent. you give her all the encouragement you can. I am sure you can help her out. Remind her to be strong for herself and her sister. All the best

 

Her mother might not be blind to the whole thing......I mean if he has a large **** collection at home and stares at women left right and centre she is bound to know something at least. Now it is whole different issue if the mom is living under denial because of physical or economical constraints. Any which way your friend needs to have a talk with her mom sooner or later.

 

God bless u. u neeed help too. tlk to ur mom anf dad if u can. regards ur friend - is there a good social worker nearby or a helpline. some one needs to be around if somr action needs to be taken. u need to ask ur local elders and find out.
what about her grandparents cousin brothera rakhi brohera
male relatives when walk in and out might help. councelling may be needed fir both sisters and f u are too involves u newd some love and care from ur elders as well.

This has to be a joint effirt. a good safety net and support system has to be built. build one.

 

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