Its about my husband

1)Drinking
2) Smoking
3) **** movies
4) Watching girls (Extremely)
5) Sperm Count 0
6)No Sex
7) No Money

You are not getting any basic need out of this marriage..He is having all bad habits...Not understanding your feeling when you need love or sex.But he enjoy **** movies, watching other girls..

Have you ever checked what is the reason for his zero sperm count ? As far I know it may be due to impotence or stress or his lifestyle (excess drinking, tobacco, illegal drugs and so on)..Is he having any EMA?

You can compromise with his drinking smoking and watching **** habits which may be normal as you said..But why he is not interested in having sex? As you said increase in a sperm count may be a good news for you but what is the use if this person is not even allowing you to touch him..this is fishy..Regarding money matter also he is not good..

You can compromise in your life but you cant run your life by compromising everything then over a period of time you will be tired and depressed..Just sit and talk to him why he is avoiding you what he expects from you..Don't ask him anything about his life style(drinking smoking etc..)Just ask him what is his plan.?So that you can plan your life accordingly..There is no physical or mental bond between you both which is not a good sign for healthy married life..So this is the high time for you to sit and speak with him..As he is not interested to give divorce means it doesn't mean he loves you..May be he want to continue with you for social status..So please sit and talk to him make a heart to heart conversation so that you can judge what he really expects from this marriage..If you think he is genuine and value your relationship then its your job to make him feel comfortable and have good relationship..All the best dear..

 

i must say just quit no use staying in his marriage see u must decide who is the victim its u who is suffering life is short preity lady may be u get someone who cares for u ,,,,,

 

hi dear,he has all bad habits a person can have.Even then you love and want to continue this relation.Hats off to you.Now he doesnot allow to touch him,keeping in view his bad habits,i am worried about his health.Is he ok????I mean this kind of activities may expose one to some diseases.Especially if he is having affairs.Think about it too.YOu can smell what is making him to behave like this.

 

I am sorry if I sound rude here, I cannot understand how you can love this guy with all his bad habits, leave alone smoking and drinking but watching girls is unacceptable, added to this he is zero in bed and says " my money" when you are his better half what is this " my money" don't you think you have all the right to spend his money...
He is not ready for divorce because he is sure he cannot make good husband even if he remarries, hats of to you for still being in this relationship..

 

dear op,

there is change in your h, for negativity...looks he is stressed in life, he is not happy in life...find out what brought this change in him, if you are interested to live with him...and solution can be worked out later...

best of luck...

 

You are just wasting your time and your life waiting for him thinking that are there any chance of getting him changed.....
There is no way that he can change. His behavior seems to be very worst..

Better come out of his life. No matter what.. You should rule your life.. Its you who is suffering now. So better you decide.. Later you will regret waiting for long time.

 

Few points to think about:

1. seems like you are not working, best you get a job first and become independant. it will improve your self -worth, not just for u but also to your family. you will also become better/courageous at taking decisions and understanding things.

2. no man will ever change for a girl, and definately not for a wife. specially when there is no love in him.

3. you need to be practical, and think what will your life be 10 - 15 yrs down the line. if the initial yrs, which are supposed to be golden period for newly married, are so painful to you, imagine how will next yrs be.

4.he may not leave any bad habits, but may pick up few more!!

5. in spending your best yrs in trying to change him, you will definately lose a lot of yourself - self esteem, courage, self - worth etc. and no gurantee that you will succeed, there is no glory in being a wife who is suffering!! this isnt movie where the end is always good.