MIL's indiffrence b/w DIL and Daughter

We can give you all the ideas and say why your mil is right or wrong. The bottom line is what you and h decide to do is what matters.
Why are you so stuck on mil wants when you are pregnant. Tell your h what your needs are and back it up with your reasons. I am sure he will agree. Once you have him agree to you rest is easy. Even the mil's brainwashing should not matter to you. Just enjoy your pregnancy. Asap talk to your h.
Ps. Don't compare yourself to sil or any one else. It will only make you miserable. Everyone has their own battles in the life.

 

Hi,
Just stop worrying abt it.. either u tell ur husband tht u need more rest or ask ur family doctor to tell ur husband..
if ur mother in law is not ready to take care of ur kid y dont u call ur mother for some time to take care or keep a house maid/ worker to do the daily chores..
If ur MIL asks y u bought ur mom/maid tell her tht "u only told ur daughter needs ur care and I really dont want to trouble any1 in sweet tone"

 

You have a kid already right? Which means your H is not new to this and must have a basic idea of what it is like with a newborn, how much rest is needed etc. You can build on that and tell H that you need more than a month, more so since you have another kid to take care of.

Will you be travelling to India for the delivery or stay in the UAE? If you are going to India, what MIL says does not matter as you can do what you what at mom's place.

 

Did your SIL loose the baby with that ectophic pregnancy?. then it is very sad ! She does need complete rest physically and also mentally. There is nothing wrong in your MIL wanting to take care of her suffering daughter. All mothers will do that.

 

I am sorry to hear that you had to face such a situation Harun, but perhaps you are not right in comparing your situation with your sil's. Many women fight postpartum battles just like you, it's indeed very difficult to take care of a newborn baby and manage everything else around including it elder sibling(s) when you are all sore,hurting and battered from pregnancy,labor and delivery. but you have a baby thats yours for keeps at the end.. You SIL just had an ectopic pregnancy. Can you imagine the physical and mental trauma she might be going through? It is natural your MIL wants to help her all out at such a time. I agree that MILs treat their daughters differently which is really sad but in this case I guess she can be excused

 

You need to stop thinking of why your MIL does not think about you and you start thinking about yourself. Come on you know mothers always favors daughters than DIL so please don't compare yourself with SIL. Her situation is completely different than yours. She had ectopic pregnancy so have a little heart.

You have to either convince your DH about your time to need rest post pregnancy or either stand up to your MIL and tell her flatly that you need more time to rest at your parents place or wherever it will be. What is your husband's stand in all this..why are you focusing on your MIL understanding your situation rather you should talk to your DH and make him understand. All this unnecessary tension can be avoided if your DH has the same understanding as you. So work towards that.

This is the time you need to focus on yourself enjoy your pregnancy. Take care of yourself and please have a talk with your DH and put the matter to rest because clearly you are getting worried and that's not good for your pregnancy.