Feeling lonely...

was this leaving you on that one day i.e sunday ..happening all this while?? or was this due to the recent new business??

I understand in joint families and hte kindof work your husband is in...you both get very lil time for yourself...so insteadof making it like a time table where he has to spend one day every week...why not take random vacations....doesnt matter 1 day or 1 hr or 1 week....have you tried that??

also you have to make your husband understand that he needs to create a backup for himself...someone who can take care of things when he is not around the business....might be your FIL or BIL who can just go n visit and see the day to day operations for those couple of days..that way you n your husband will get some time together.

Remember no one can actually make your husband spend time with you....he has to feel that and he has to understand that and he has to agree for that...either youc an try to lure him by creating interest in you or come to an agreement with him after discussing ...or understand why heis the way he is.....but you cannot really force him to spend time with you isnt it?/ its like forcing him to love you!!! so openlyt ell him your feelings and see what is his reaction...what is his thought on all this and what solution he suggests!!

 

hello,

I fully understand how you feel, but this is how i would look at it.
Your husband is just setting up his business & is obviously trying to give his best . So, support him fully. Its end of day, for your family/future rite.
Also, I guess both of you should be able to take breaks during weekdays. Every fridays, you can probably take break from work & go for a dinner and spend some private time outside home. This would atleast make things better though not the best solution.
You could also tell him how you feel about the whole thing but put it in a subtle manner. Maybe he doesnt still realize how it feels from your side. I am sure with repeatedly talking about this/ once his business is established a bit, he will also realize he needs time with you.
Dont worry, hang in there.

 

hey SUBHAARCHIE, I get it now. I recently married also. I work & sometimes get so engrossed that dont even call/talk to my hubby until late evening. btw, we stay in different cities as of now because I like my job and want to be here for some more time. But, this happens occasionally (maybe twice or thrice a month). I know it is annoying if it happens every single time, You should probably talk straight to him and explain this

And for the other part of your post, "if there is a quarrel between us...even if its not my fault...i am the one to go and speak to him...i don't y i am like this...i am never strong to him...no attitude..."
Hehehe this is what happens with me as well. For no mistake of mine, I give in & close the quarrels. But one thing, after things cool I always make it a point to make him understand what I expect/ what he did/ what went wrong etc. This way the grudge isnt carried for too long and I do see how my hubby is slowly changing for better now.
I believe, this is a good quality and will help your relationship grow stronger provided you dont overdo it.

 

Has this problem solved for you: http://www.indusladies.com/forums/r...ws/129690-facing-a-very-critical-problem.html

 

You are panicking unnecessarily. There is a big difference in your outlook and your DH , you want romance, honeymoon whereas he ignores it.You can both go for a honeymoon after the business issues settle down.
Slowly you can change his outlook . Dont leave your job or you may have to live in the native place with PILs .Since you are a city girl you may find it difficult to stay in a small place.

 

Hi Subha,

Gone through your posts. I am Jeyan's husband. I have some suggestion from my prospective. Some time life is like that. But you only can make a change in you life. Ever if your hubby is spending most of his time. in the native leave early from office on friday and go to his native and help him in his business. When ever he calls you enquire him about his business. Make him to think and understand that you are also very concern about the business. When ever he calls you or you call him try to avoid such topic which will results in quarelling. Whenever you goes to native take some gifts to your inLAWS and also frequently call them and enquire about their health. This will surely result in change in attitude of your hubby and your inlaws.

Wish you a happy married life.

Regards,