ILs don't care about my pregnancy

Hi,

First of all congrats on your pregnancy.
This is the time when you need to forget all people around you and concentrate on your pregnancy.

If you dont want to follow the traditions on visiting ILs , pls inform your parents clearly about it. they will understand when you explain in detail.

There are Ils who are not so enthu abt the pregnancy. Same is with me. but I have mentioned all this to my parents and they undertstand.This way you wont have to pretend anything before them. You need mental peace and should do anything for that.

Dont think too much and inform your parents what you feel. They will surely be with you .

Take care

 

hi good teacher,

hey just sit back and rejoice-enjoy your pregnancy to the ' T '. no interference and nagging from il's ,sil,etc.take care of your health and just be happy.good luck to you.

 

Hey,
Congrats on your pregnancy...
i think its time for us to stop thinking about such moron people...
if they dnt care... you also stopped caring abt them...
Enjoy your time with your husband.. i know..its easy to say that not to care... but the bad memories and behavior came to haunt us always...
But its the precious time.... enjoy it..

 

Congrats on your pregnancy!! Make sure that you enjoy every second of the pregnancy experience. Since you mentioned that your ILs have mistreated you in the past.. why expect them to be excited about the baby news. Be glad that they are not around to make things more stressful.

Dont worry too much about traditions.. do what makes you happy.Concentrate on the special moment and make it a wonderful experience for you and DH. All the best !

 

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I agree that there will be disappointment when people behave that way with us. But communication b/w u has already broken down for the past one year and their behaviour is not entirely unexpected. Their ego would want to make sure that you feel the neglect for not toeing their line or whatever feeling they have. If tomorrow something goes wrong with your cosis , then they may come to you also forgetting all this. See, you are not responsible for their attitude.

You have your parents, friends and well wishers around you. You husband loves you. What more do you want? Ignore their cheap behaviour and enjoy your life without bothering about their antics.

 

From my experience, I would say dont expect your in-laws to keep you happy during pregnancy and delivery. Atleast, be happy they are not around to trouble you:rotfl
They may not turn around as well and get every chance to mistreat inspite of your new status. They may even not be thrilled when you have the baby:bonkbecause in their minds they have resigned you guys from their mind. Now u and the baby inside have become the "family of the estranged son" who did not participate in the DIL abuse. I guess from what you said your dh supports you and understands the problems.
Also, there will be people like sil and cosis to feed this kind of cheap thouhts:rant
BE happy no matter what. My suggestion is just dont expect too much from them. Be happy they dont trouble you during the vulnerable stage of your life. Just look at positive. This is from a person who has had the same experience. its your job to keep you happy. you cant expect your enemies to keep you happy. sorry for calling in-laws enemies. just was a figure of speeach:bonk

 

Hi GT,
First of all congratulations on your pregnancy. Don't get tensed that your ils haven't called you or ask about your pregnancy. such kind of stress is not good for you or your baby.
Even I was in your boat. My ils didn't even call me once during the whole of pregnancy and my mil came to visit me after i delivered while i was in hospital only. maybe she wanted to confirm that i indeed gave birth to her grandson. even then she asked how i was and thats all.
forget about your in laws and concentrate on your pregnancy. this from an experienced woman take care of your health that is more important to you now than your in laws or anybody for that matter.
Hansika

 

Hi GT,

Congrats on your pregnancy.

I agree with most of them here. Just ignore your in laws and be glad that they are not there to trouble you throughout your pregnancy when this is the time you need a lot of peace of mind. Enjoy the pregnancy with your husband.

We cannot stop others from liking or disliking us.
It's their right whether or not to like us.
At the same time we can't make others to feel happy or sad for something that's happening in our life.

Just leave your in laws aside.
Tell your parents you are not interested with the traditional rituals and ask them not to stress you out with all that. I am sure they will understand. Or tell them you'll do some part of the rituals but you don't have to meet your in laws.

Take care and God bless.

 

Good teacher,
First of all congrats dear on your pregnancy, this much of stress during pregnancy is not good for you and child..eat well, stay happy,read something positive, be cheerful girl,enjoy this time.And about in laws i know it hurts when they behave so Cold,, but why to worry when you have a loving husband who is there for you and takes care of you, why bother if inlaws dont ask you about your health and pregnancy,, your parents and DH are enough for you.No need to worry about traditions if you don't feel like.they are sheer formalities.
Take care