Marriage Not Consummated

Ask your friend to get separated and carry on with life. Annulment is dissolving the marriage and divorce is breakage of marriage. She's married for 4 years so there's no need for a waiting period of 1 year. If they go for mutual consent they will get the divorce in 6 months

 

I can understand her scared about the future and what people think..Once she takes the first step,everything else will follow.All the best to her.
Hope she find happiness soon.:thumbsup

 

That guy sounds like a looney nut. The sooner your friend moves on with her life, the sooner she will find happiness. 4 years is a long time to live in a miserable relationship. Best of luck to her.

 

First one must be inherently happy and then the parents enter the picture. The victim is not moving out because the bedroom AC did not work, she's moving out with a genuine reason and the parents just cannot object. They have to be a pillar of support. One of the serious mistakes women do are they never reveal their plight to their family at an earlier stage.

 

This forum advises women to keep everything between the couple.:spin

 

Loner, please go through the threads of all the abused women. They had never revealed anything to their family until things went out of control. We must learn to snip-off at the bud. When we fail to do, we conduct our funeral and expect support. That's a gruesome problem. We need to take help from the family when it is of dire necessity.

 

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Good that you have shared your problems with indusladies, then you get more points of view and it will give you a 360 degree of view.
Your marriage is beyond repair, looks like he had a shock of his life, after marriage with 'you' with 'high hope,dreams,aspirations etc' but did not come out to his expectations and is in a different world and beleive me it is next to impossible for him to come out of it, even with counselling and psycharitic treatment, the damage is irrepairable, you are wasting your life.
The best option for you is legal seperation by mutual consent, which i am not so sure, he will agree, come out of it, after finding a right job first so that you are financial independent and wait for a year or so and observe his behaviour and deceide to remarry and settle down, with new husband with in detail discussion of your first marriage.
If there is no love,some marriages work.
If there is no sex, it is no marriage or no love.

Wish you all the best.

 

Hi Loveneverfails..
I pity your friend. I hope she tries till the min she has hope in changing him. I wonder why guys turn this way after marr, this being a love marr, how can sex be not involved in the marr. courtship days would be diff and married life ll be diff that too in a joint family with mil n sil, she might have taken time to get along. things ll seem new, environment ll be new lifestyle brought up ll be new. 4 mths is too shorter a time for any marr to get a fulls stop. I wish the guy is matured enuf to understand this and the girl will not repeat the same mistake which she did earlier.

vijaybhas007,
I wonder why you say councelling or psychiatric treatment will not help the guy and ahy cant the marriage be repaired? every male and female have expectations in marr, and most of which fail but that is not the end of life right, why does this guy think so? I feel there might be some other reason too behind it. But i also wonder waiting for 1 more year is it going to help? already 4 years gone.. wierd of a case this seems to be