What about my family?

Hello Ladies,
So last night me and my DH had an argument (nothing new). It almost went as far as us going our seperate ways because we argue all the time. We are both stubburn and admit it.

This time it was about our plans to go visit my sister and her newborn. We had made plans to go a few months ago, but then we found out his friends wife is having a baby shower the same weekend on Sunday. One thing i want to point out first is that when my sister had her baby shower he said men dont go to baby showers which is partly true but it was my sisters. Now that his friend is having a baby shower the same weekend he says we have to be back early from my sisters (flight back from NY) on Sunday to attend the baby shower. I told him i thought men dont go to baby showers and he tells me all his boys are going. He always makes an excuss about having to visit my family. I had booked my ticket yesterday and was going with or without him and he got mad, he then made me cancel my ticket because i didnt book it to make it back for the baby shower.

Last weekend i went to visit my aunt that was visiting her son about and hour and a half from our house, i asked him if he wanted to come and he said he is going out with the boys. So i went alone, i left on a Sat and returned on Sunday night. When i got home everyone seemed to be in a mood. I said hi to my mother in law and she said oh your here is this the time to come. I said i was visiting with family not out on the town with my girlfriends. She said well your a married women now. What can i do if my aunt is in town and my husband doesnt want to ever visit with my family.

Also when me and DH had our argument he said something about me being a married women and i was like that is where he is getting it from. I believe his mom is putting all these things into his head so we fight.

And to top it all off he tells me i always do things on my own and we dont act like a married couple. I do everything with his family because they all stay in the same town, but when i want to go visit my family he never wants to come. And non of them live in the same town.

I am very close to my family and always have been the one they can always count on and be there to help them, now being married is making it hard because he wants me to take part in all his family fuctions and doesnt want anything to do with my family which i am not going to have.

I hate my life............