My husband too has become a similar kind of uncaring person, many years after marriage... Your post really touched my heart and reminded me how many ladies are suffering silently without getting any care or attention and just working mechanically. I have been very depressed when I do something expecting my husband s approval and appreciation and I don’t get it..when i do the same without expectation it’s slightly better. These days I’m just doing my work and ignoring his criticisms , rather Pursuing my interests and entertaining myself with my favourite music and TV serials.
The neighbour analogy by @beautifullife30 is the only option I think... You can not make someone show you affection just becuase you are showing them. Like you I have seen so many couples ( I could as well include me)where one person is naturally affectionate while other person justs sits there exhausting it conviniently without giving back any of it. One day the other person just realises he has lost his ability to love. This is sad. You are a person who have this blessing of caring... dont put yourself into a situation where you will lose it. Show it on yourselves, someone who values it, on plants, animals etc... Let his apathy be HIS loss, not yours. Goodluck!
Unfortunately my husband from start of our relationship is like that….I sometimes feel at least some people are lucky who say their relationship was very lively during initial days. But nowadays this thought doesn’t bother me much, got used to it. What you mentioned finally are true and they are very helpful come out of these kind of situation.
True if other person lacks that generous nature. May be I should hold myself from completely investing myself on that person. I should be able decide who is worth of receiving it.
Because u take this treatment he gives it to you. If you dont take and leave him he will change. If he still doesnt change accept your fate and live this life
Yes I have worked but had to stop until my work visa gets renewed. Once it’s done will start looking for jobs again.
Have you ever communicated to him what you have written here? ( Is he not aware of your thoughts and feelings ) Have you ever asked him what's his way of expressing love towards you? ( any mismatch of love language?)