Singapore Ladies - Introduce yourselves here!

Hi,

I am staying in Singapore (Serangoon North) for the last 10 years .I am looking for net friends to share my thoughts and learn new things.

regards
Lakshmi

 

Hi all,

Though I don't live in Singapore at the moment, I couldn't resist replying here I had moved to Singapore from Chennai in 2000 soon after my wedding. My husband was working there then. He was in Singapore since 95. We moved to France in 2001, so I was barely there for over a year. We first were in in Bhukit Bhatok, close to West Mall and then moved to Tiong Bharu. Oh, I have such wonderful memories of Singapore. I started to work (only 8 months) soon after my PR was approved. Until then I had time to discover Little India, the lovely libraries, shopping malls, food courts:drool. I loved the library in Bhukit Timah which was close to where we lived and they had wonderful collection of tamil books and magazines. We used to go to the Murugan temple opp Fort Canning Park every Saturday and I was also learning Devaram from the Othuvar there. Since my husband had many friends in Singapore we had lots of fun... going to movies together, meeting at home... oh dear... i do miss Singapore a lot. I would love to return to Singapore somedayBow Latha

 

Hi Lakshmi,

I am also living in Serangoon North. I'm here for the past 9 years.I just luv this site...not only entertaining but also very informative! Do share your interests & thoughts with us.

 

Hi latha (traveller)

I have read many of your other posts in this site. I can understand your 'reminiscence ' about <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-comffice:smarttags" /><st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1lace w:st="on">Singapore</st1lace></st1:country-region>. And I guess the temple you've mentioned is Sri Dhandayutha pani temple (chettiyar temple) near river valley road. It is one of oldest temple in S'pore & nowadays, many of saivates temples have devaram & thiruvasakam classes. The cost of living has gone up but it is always lively...full of activities. Do visit <st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1lace w:st="on">Singapore</st1lace></st1:country-region>. As you know, the country is friendly in welcoming visitors & tourists.

 

Yes Anu... it's the same temple. I'm not a very religious person (by chennai standards) but the feeling I got in that temple is something that can't be expressed by words. My classes were on Saturday afternoons and the abhishekam used to be just after the lessons. It was really wonderful... and all the small children coming to learn. I think the othuvar is still there... Somanatha Desikar. He has such a captivating voice. He also conducts classes at the other Shiva temple (forgot the name). We came to Singapore once in 2003, then again in 2005 to renew our PR. Even in 2005 I noticed lots of changes, more Indian shops, prices (Yes, up!). We plan to drop by again next year to say hello to friends Latha

 

Hi All,

I am part of IL from last couple of month.but joining this forum now.

I am Pooja,moved to singapore last year with my hubby and we are recently blessed with a baby boy 22 days back.

Basically from Delhi,working in singapore but nowadays enjoying my mat leave.

Take care

 

Hi Pooja,

On behalf of our Champion, I cordially welcome you to this ' <?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-comffice:smarttags" /><st1lace w:st="on"><st1:country-region w:st="on">Singapore</st1:country-region></st1lace>' forum.
And congratulations for becoming a new Mom!
Enjoy your role as parent. Browse more, Read more & Write more as you know our site has many things that are under sunlight!

 

Hello ladies

came across this website by chance. I am not an Indian but I was married to one and it was really hell for me!! Should have seen this website 18 years ago before I started a relationship with my ex-husband who is a Singapore Indian when I was 20. I didn't know much about Indian men before cause have never mixed with them. I'm a mixed parentage between a European, Chinese and Thai. So my contact with Indians is limited. Had a very tumultuous relationship with a lot of disrespect, shoutings and believe me if I tell you I had my 1st slap during the 1st year of our courtship but I continued till we got married 6 years later. I have never been assaulted or shouted vulgarities to by any of my ex-boyfriends or even my present husband who is a European.

However after 1 year and 1 son later our relationship became sour and I never got any financial and emotional help at all!!! My ex did not hold down a proper job but I didnt mind cause I was working and anyway being born and bred in SIngapore, a divorce is taboo. So we lived apart for 4 years before I finally filed for divorce. Even then my ex not willing to let go even though he was the one who left me to begin with. So the divorce became so acrimonious and it was so difficult to come to a decision. Funny thing is when he wants to be with me he will find all excuses otherwise he just drops me like i never existed. And then when he knows Im serious he will try to manipulate my feelings..........its a never ending cycle!

Now I'm happily married to a European who respects and loves me, provides for me like how a wife should be provided and more and never hurt me with words or actions even how angry and upset I am. My present husband treasures the fact that I've got some asian values in me so I will try to make the marriage work as much as possible if he puts in the effort. My ex and my present husband are worlds apart besides the fact they come from different race, cultures and continents!! ....for eg, my present husband, being an expat earns at least 10 times more than my ex, is so much smarter and wiser (and not only in terms of paper qualifications), helps out with the household chores (which my ex takes ages to do and very slow), is a reasonably good cook (have never seen my ex even fry an egg, his mum does evertihng for him), helps himself with the food (my ex has to get his mum put food for him on his plate before he eats). One wonders who got the worse upbringing????? and whose upbringing should one follow? Maybe Indian sons should be brought up in the western culture to be more independent, loving and respectful to their spouses. So why do I even bother mixing with such a man to begin with, you wonder but hey I was 20 years old then you know and easily manipulated!!! But I should have seen it coming!!

I think my 1st marriage broke down because of the interference of in-laws and the lack of independence on the part of my ex. He should have been thought how to look after himself and his own family in the future instead of always depending on his mum. I once witnessed him asking his mum money to pump petrol in his car. His mum should have cut his apron strings long ago before he embarked on a relationship. But I never saw it coming cause my ex will always put me before his family before marriage and after marriage another story. What a CUNNING thing to do!! I also think because being of a different race, I look very exotic so he tried to hang on to me as long as possible. However, I also have very low self-esteem and didn't really see the beauty in me until much later when its too late. I don't often hear praises from him, only from his friends or relatives. However, with my present European husband, I get compliments from him all the time, even from his family and friends. Please help me understand what I got myself into 18 years ago!!! I still need to heal!! Thank you so much for hearing me out.

 

Thanks Anushiv,

We are all champions and no doubt about it.
You really are writing very well and definitely have a way with the words. :hatsoff.

 

hello friends
myself monika, i m from northIndia.i m a punjabi.
i have done fashion designing.
music and dance is my hobby.

i came to know about this site from google.its very informative site for all the indian specially who r living outside india.
i m glad to join this site.

thanks