A friend request in facebook

After my busy day, I was going through my facebook updates and noticed a friend’s request. I could not recognize the person with his name. I opened his profile and browsed through his details and saw that he studied in the same college where I did my pre-degree and then I checked couple of photos of his. I could very well recollect him and a smile came on my face and I was calling my husband and showing him the profile of the army man who was my X-classmate and I started narrating him some incidents which happened 13 years back.

Here is the story for you..

A flashback… After the convent school education in the girl’s school, I joined pre-degree in a government college. I was from a village and had a typical village look with long hair which was left open most of the time and a red bindi on my forehead. Those days I had a misinterpretation about men and had a feeling that talking and interacting with guys were a sin and was very scared of the guys. But still I had all those teenage chemistry happening within me. I looked at good looking guys without no one knowing about it and was interesting in hearing and seeing others in love. There were around 90 students in the class and I had a seat near the window and which was very far from the guys and had no opportunity to mingle with them but still I was very comfortable with my window seat from where I could see what was happening outside the classroom and I enjoyed watching all the seniors bunking the class and roaming around and having love talks beneath the trees. I truly enjoyed that window seat and my days with my 2 dearest friends who were there with me all the time. And life just went on with all the teenage fun.

I was very confident when my friends were there with me. My friends were also from the same place as mine and we travelled together throughout the long journey from home to college. We 3 were together all the time and whole day we were busy talking and still end of the day I used to feel I had something more to tell them.
If by any chance if I happen to go to college alone , I used to tremble while passing those guys standing near the college gate and prayed that they should not comment at me.

Days passed and we had our first year lab exams. My friends had exam in the morning batch whereas I had it in the afternoon. I went and sat in one of those middle benches in the library and started reading my lab books. Suddenly I noticed that some guys were talking something from the backside. I could overhear their conversation. Since it was noon time there were only very few people in the library and I could see one girl setting and reading something in the frond. I could hear the guys from the back telling one guy to go and propose the gal in the front. I became very curious to see a guy proposing a girl and I was listening to the conversation of those guys behind though my eyes were focused into the books. I was very disappointed to see that gal getting up from there and moving out. I returned back to my studies.. But still surprisingly those guys continued to tell their friend to go and propose his love and that this is the golden chance. I looked around and realized that I was the only gal sitting in the library..Ohh My God.I was shocked and frozen and was shivering after realizing that those guys were talking about me. I immediately tool my books and walked faster to come out of the library and cursed my anklets for the noise it made. I didn’t know what to do and where to go. I went and stood in front of the lab next to teacher’s room.

I told this to my friends and they started teasing me and I was feeling very bad for myself to be in that situation though I enjoyed seeing my friends in similar situations earlier. During the conversation which I overheard though many times the guys name was called, I could not recollect his name to tell my friend. Few days later when I was passing through the corridor of the college, few guys were calling out someone’s name and I could then recollect that it the same name what I heard in the library. It became a regular fun for guys to tease me with the name of the admirer guy and I felt very embarrassed and I started hating coming to college because of this reason and fear for this guy. I kept hearing this guy’s name for more than a month months and still didn’t know who the guy was. Attendance was always taken with the roll no and so I didn’t know the names of most of the guys in my class. One day one gal in the my class came to me and told me that those guys were asking her my details etc and my friends were eager to know the guy and that gal showed my admirer.

Days passed, more and more students in the college started knowing about this and started teasing me. I was so light hearted that I could not bear it and I started finding reasons to skip the college. He and his friends wrote my name and his name in the collge walls and windows and finally one day on the board an "I love you” message statement addressed to me with lots of decoration with multiple colored chock. But fortunately or unfortunately I was absent on that day and that evening my dearest friends came running to my house with the news and I was shocked and thinking how do i face the teachers ? and I did not go to college for 2 more days .Third day when I went to college still half of it was on the board. My friends told me that many teachers took the duster and seeing this no one cleared the whole board and wrote on the other end of the board. Both my friends were equally scared like me to go in front of the classroom and clear it off. But finally after my frequent request, one of my friend went and cleared it off from the board. I started hating this guy like anything and was afraid to even go to canteen because of my admirer and his friends. Many times in the lab I happened to meet this guy face to face, I gave him a hateful stare and avoided him.

The drama continued and finally it was final lab exams of second year Pre-degree. I was all alone after the lab exam and these guys were behind me till I reached the bus stop with the usual teasing. I was upset and angry and was waiting for my bus. All on a sudden my admirer came near me with his friend pushing him. I got very angry and was even more embarrassed as I was conscious about the people in the bus and bus stop seeing me surrounded by these guys. My eyes were full with anger and fear and I turned to my admirer and asked in a sympathizing manner "Why are you troubling me like this? “ He did not even tell a word and just looked at me and stood there without knowing what to say and one of his friend came forward and presents to me that my admirer is deeply in love with me. I said ‘college is getting over and all these time you guys were troubling me and I don’t have any such feeling for you’. His friend apologized me on behalf of all of them saying we never thought of troubling you. For the first time I saw those guys with a serious face. I took my bus and went home. My admirer still stood there looking at me.

I didn’t know how to face these guys from the next day, but very surprisingly all these guys started saying a hi-hello to me except my admirer and finally I was out of the trouble and felt very relaxed.

After so many years my admirer who is now an army man has send me a friend’s request in Facebook.
Though I used to hate him for spoiling my college days, narrating those incidents to my husband made both of us laugh

 

My DH has the left the choice to me on whether to accept his request or not.
I don't think I will accept it as I never knew this person personally.

 

Yes
During initial days of my marriage I used to worry why my DH is not possessive about me. Years later I understood that it is a blessing to have a husband who is not possessive and gives me some space for myself.

 

Dinny,
If you feel it needs to be moved to Snippets , then I'm fine with it.
Somehow I'm more families with my married forum friends than Snippets and that's why I posted it here.

 

I know but in reality also I ended it abruptly. Thanks for your feedback and will see if I could improve it a little.