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In-laws are returning back tomorrow :-( feel very sad...infact my DH has started showing me his earlier colors again....like getting panic on small small things and to dominate me always...but yet I would cherish wonderful moments spend with him...
Am sure once in-laws are at home....my DH and MIL wouldn't leave eachother from talking.... :-(
how to maintain peace? My BP raises high when I see constant interactions between DH and MIL also MIL manages expenses in house with money that my DH is giving...dont know when will I get to live in my house...dont know how u gals would take this up as but really....living with in-laws would be so difficult I never knew before marriage...my MIL is charge of everything and my poor DH though it is his hard earned money my MIL would decide where to spend in house also every month DH gives her 20k apart from buying appliances,renovation etc....I wonder what she does with that money...my MIL said me before going out of town that as parents their duty is finished and so now its my DH's responsibilities to look after house (interms of spending money) my Grandfather-in-law is nice man he opted to spend money on electrician work we had but my MIL returned money saying her son would only pay...my MIL doesnt like her FIL(DH's grandfather) so she doesnt take obligations from him...what the hell yaar....if this how it will continue...how will we save for kid in future we havnt planned kid yet but this all things scares me..also as she said their duty is over....she also added that she doesnt like to discriminate between DH's money and her husband's(my FIL's) Money...but want her son to spend.....STRANGE.she is forgetting that DH's younger sister is yet to get marry.....who would spend for her wedding? surely would be DH only.....marrying off daughter is parents responsibilities at first place and than brother's responsibilities.

sorry to get off track...was extremely worried and upset so wanted to vent down.however I am wanting to discuss financial things with DH but not sure how to discuss he takes it negatively to whichever question I ask....I badly wanted to tell him what his mom said .... that to give money in everything we buy, repair, household etc is DH's responsibility now...but didnt tell him in these 5 day as wanted to enjoy with him. Am I ill thinking I mean when would DH understand that once we would have kid 1st family would be DH,me and kid.

Please guide me how to deal with financial things...also he reacts as if I wont know abt finance and all....how can he?am educated softwared engineer know the things but for that he need to atleast discuss feel sad today...but would still enjoy at home as its last day to our home honeymoon

 

Re: In-laws are out of town for 5 days,I & DH will be alone pls suggest ideas to e

Thanks Sriveda,
yeah you are right that DH is MIL's son first than my husband...but why I feel its too much coz my MIL is always ill talking about her FIL that is my DH's grandfather who stays with us to the extent that she always openly wish in front of me that He dies soon am not that bad in thinking can never think ill of my parent-in-law also MIL's husband , my FIL is working from past 30 yrs I wonder he havnt made any savings....like my DH have spend for travelling and other rituals in wedding....wedding cost was entirely spend by my parents also the arrangements for their stay in hotel.

Height is my MIL indirectly keep taunting me 'what if you take away my son' whereas she already knows DH is in her control...
If parents are of priority for Man even after getting marry....why FIL havnt given priority to his Father and expecting from his son....here FIL and my DH dont share friendly bond but my DH would never hesitate in spending money and giving them money more than what they require.

my MIL has full control over my DH and her husband....u know my FIL doesnt even exchange pleasantries to his father.So my point here is when they MIL-FIL are not treating grandfatherinlaw , they are expecting us to do more than what one usually does....i.e; to keep spending money on their daughter that is my sis-in-law and yes from giving money to run house to any other house related work DH only gives money. And am proud of my DH he doesnt feel that he is doing anything great....coz he is v down to earth but after spending all these money my MIL would always show to her relatives that FIL (her husband) is spending....she says DH's money is their money....we dont keep a/c of it...good than my question is FIL is still working cant he contribute???
also my SIL is CA still is not working....though my parents have spend on my wedding...while I was working I use to bring things from my sal too would feel proud to spend from my salary though my Parents are well off and dont expect , atleast I use to buy my stuff myself....here she doesnt find need to work and keep spending...still ok with that but we know how tough is to manage kid's school fees....

Dear everything has got a limit I mean for me my parents means a lot but after marriage my DH matters the most to me...My MIL-FIL spends DH's money like water....yeah I have started saving for our future....but lil worried....

 

Re: In-laws are out of town for 5 days,I & DH will be alone pls suggest ideas to e

Hi Nandshyam,
Thanks for posting
Sorry if my thread has offended you....I didnt mean by asking for postures or any such personal thing...
All I asked in this thread was , different ideas to plan date and what fun games to do...as earlier I have planned few dates for DH in Honeymoon and when alone but wanted more ideas.
Didnt expect any naughty answers.
Sorry once again.