Husband habit of drinking - good / bad

Re: Husband habit of drinking -good / bad

I have moved this thread to general discussions only for the reason that we have discussed the entire topic in general ....as OP didnt participate or respond back to any of the questions...so this general discussions sub forum will be the right place to hold such discussions and am sure the moderators here will tak action accordingly if they found any of the posts out of line. Please click on report post icon to report any offensive posts.

 

Re: Husband habit of drinking -good / bad

No one is making any fun here, just stated that all a wife can do is try to get her hubby to quit drinking if she doesnt like it. No one is talking abt controlling here, certainly not me. I still cant understand what made you think that?

As you said, everyone is entitled to an opinion. What you choose for your family is right for you - I have never disputed that anywhere, have I? I am certainly not forcing my opinion on anyone here. Its my opinion and I put here as a part of discussion.

And Srividya, all the views and arguments were taken as a persons view and not moderators.

 

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Sounds yummmmm even without the wine!

Its happening in India too, from a very long time. This is not a new concept.

Actually drinking is also part of our history not just foreign culture. Madira?

To follow healthy life style, it doesn't take a lot of money. You can exercise at home and cook the same food in healthier way.

Everyone should follow this irrespective of drinking or not.

Lemon pickles with drinks...sounds interesting. I feel like eating tikka now :bonk

 

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Dear Tara,

Does a moderator can't make her view as a member? Do you think every time she need to wear a moderator cap????

First of all, make yourself clear with this !!! Moderators wont jump into any thread unless they have a report on it. Every moderators know their role play !!!!!!!

What makes you to think so? If srividya has made her post as a member, you would not have stepped into this thread. Since the user name carried the moderator tag, you stepped in here. No one here in the discussion, considered her as a moderator. They took it as opinion/views of Srividya as a user and not as a moderator.

If some of your posts were deleted/closed, it shows clearly that someone from 1 lakh member has reported your post and the concerned moderator took action on it. No moderators like to chop off any discussion unnecessarily. Do you think it's an easy job for them to chop off all the thread they see? If you think it's an easy job, then you be a moderator for a day. Then only you will know, what a painstaking effort it is?????

Because the moderator knows very well when to moderate/censor a discussion. If you could understand the purpose of censor board for the movie films, then you could very well understand the purpose of moderation.

It's really absurd. So as per your view, a moderator cant make her opinion. She should remain silent all the time wearing a moderator cap. If you find any of her post as offensive, just report it with your 'valid statement'. Please consider a moderator as an user first and then you can make complaints about her moderator duty/role.

To all, I'm not supporting/backing srividya here. I came here to make my point to Tara !!!

It's quite surprising, when I made my posts as an user, no one questioned me and when I started to make my post after being a moderator, I was put into lime light as if a moderator shouldn't raise her voice. Do I got two horns, after taking up the role.

Please consider a moderator as an user first !!!!! If you cant generalise the point here, then all the mods should act as a deaf and dumb as Tara expected.

Thank you,

 

Re: Husband habit of drinking -good / bad

No one is forcing you I hope. Just like people let you live Your way, you need to let others (including your spouse) live life their way (as long as things are in moderation). your spouse here does not refer to yours (i dont know abt yours) - its a general statement.


Rakhii - Agree with you on the points you've stated. Especially some folks here are being judgemental and having the holier-than-thou attitude.

 

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That is not moderation Sri. (I meant the moderate drinking, not the IL Moderation )

You are getting confused about what is moderation, but that by itself does not mean it (moderation) does not exist.

 

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You have not found anyone in the sense after having moderate booze?? Hmm...sorry to hear that the company you hang out in does not have the sense of moderation. But with more exposure - you may find that there are people who are well in control of the senses and dont do anything indecent just because they had a glass or two of booze.

Then perhaps you may stop labeling any social drinker as broadly labelled as a drunkard. :biglaugh

 

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Hi Srividya,

As a person having participated actively in this thread's last part, it is my duty to tell in polite , yet firm words that none of what you said was offensive to any one. Your views were totally neutral........I mean the views about drinking and driving...........and some couple , while during a party, the husband bringing out the wife's too personal things to the open , in front of every one, under the influence of alcohol etc, Those informations were useful ones.

At no point, I felt that that you are pushing your views , which is unacceptable to many. Nothing of that sort happened.

I really do not understand, what has offended the Member Tara. Her attack on you is clearly unwarranted and unjustified. You are doing a fabulous job. Let me go on record to say it.

 

HI TimidlyConfidnt,

You have been great and nice in responding to many peoples issues here inclduing mine and i have a lot of respect for that.

Regarding my post earlier though i talked about helathy lifestyle and designated drives etc.. it was not specific response to anyones comments its but was a response to overall discussion..

I have personally undergone a sitution where my dad underwent an open heart surgery whcih took 9 hours for doctors to compelete and every min we spent during that time was horrible even now i have tears when i say this.. he was just smoking max 1 or two cigrates a day which we all know at home very well but still he got this heart problem..

My uncles who is at his 50s age now has some major problem with his lungs because of his driniking habbit ( i swear he was boozing only once in weekand was under full control normally behaving though he used to directly go for sleep without talking to anyone after that) so the occasional drinking did not save him from going through such a situation now.. doc has clearly told that unless he quits drinking completely (but slowly) he cant assure his life

I know healthly lifestyle is very important for anyone weather they booz or not but as you might have seen people are not following that and already facing many problems should drinking alchohal be an addtion to already exisitng problem.. i know just by posting here we cant change anyone and its their individual choice.. but i personally discourage that, just like how we say dont eat fried food if you are obase similarly dont booz if you dont have the ability to manage a healthy lifestyle..

Cheers,
Have a great new yeaar and May God Bless.

 

Oh come on ,Sri!I did not expect this from you.Being such a bold and sensible person you could have just stressed on the below lines(after this para) of yours and continued your discussion.It is just her view and I still do not understand why she picked on you.I agree with IG.I do not understand what offended her.Infact you had already written a post to OP on why she is not responding and whether this thread could be moved to GD.Probably Tara has missed it?