And I decided to Talk it Out!

Hi Friends!
This is yet another incident of my life; I would like to share with you all. Yesterday, I had a great morning. In the evening, a friend came over. This one is so full of negativity that I generally like to avoid meeting. But she insisted to meet so I had to invite her home. She radiates only negativity, through her action, thought and behavior. She reacts very fast to everything. She is very good at forming opinions and then saying, “Oh!, I thought it is like that!” and all. I never like this nature of hers. Sometimes in a subtle tone I tried to tell her to change a bit but no avail. Yesterday when she came, she reacted as usual in a very negative and frustrated tone.
Friends; all those who’ve been following my posts regularly are well aware of the fact that I am a total no-nonsense person. Neither I like to spread negativity nor do I tolerate any nonsense. I always believed that instead of fuming inside one should talk things out. So I did the same thing. Since, she was my guest; I didn’t bother her much then. She could have felt insulted sort of.
I decided to call her in the morning. The only motive behind doing so was to tell her that dear, I care for you and I wanna tell you that this is not the right way to put forward your thoughts. I wanted to tell her that you are not always supposed to judge things; sometimes you may just enjoy things the way they are; not to make a hurried opinion about a person, thing or an incident. Everything needs some time to unfold itself. Life is not about cribbing about this and that; one should always learn to enjoy at the fullest.
I just wanna tell her that even if you have to say something negative about somebody or you wanna correct someone, there are different ways of doing so. It’s not necessary that you have to blast or shout every time to make yourself heard. Silence speaks more than words. And saying something in a subtle tone has a charm of its own.
Friends; did I do the right thing in talking out to her or not? Please do send your insights.
Cheers J

 

Thanks dear shobha for your reply.yes,many a times we have to keep things to ourselves only especially when the issue is a bit volatile.thanks dear.cheers-anu

 

Dear prettina! thanks for your feedback.I don't know if she's a bad judge but yes i talked to her because she's my friend and i care for her.cheers-anu

 

Thanks dear ssv!this is your first feedback to my post.i am very happy for the same.please do keep posting your insights.cheers-anu

 

Very true padmini ma'm.I also feel that everyone should realize that you should not hurt someone just beacuse your mind was preoccupied.And as a friend, i think i've just performed my duty.regs-anu