Visiting parents

Hi pacer,

The great thing is that your husband is fine with your decision(U r lucky!! :thumbsup)
My suggestion - you should spend atleast a few days at ur ILs place(need nt be equal to the days u stay at ur place)...For your DH's happiness.

 

Hi,

My suggestion is same... As ur IL came & helped u after delivery etc., they should be good... Think of atleast one thing good in them. U will be able to go & stay there.. Also they will be as eager as ur parents to see & stay with the kid normally... so u can stay a few days there also..
Always think that ur DH is what he is now as they brought him up well..
As u love ur kids, they loved him..
All the best.

 

Do they (ILs and parents) live in the same city? If yes, then you can stay at your momma's house while allowing your DH to stay with his parents as long as he wants. You can vist them more often (if possible daily) and your elder child can spend a couple of nights with his dad at his paternal grand parents home, while you can take your little child to their place more often.

By doing this both you and your parents will be happy with your presence and your convenience. At the same time, your ILs will be happy to have their son with them, and grand kids either stay with them for few days or visit them daily.. and their DIL also doing the same

But if both families live in different cities, then you really need to plan and compromise a bit.. If not for your IL, at least for your wonderful understanding hubby.

You can spend a couple of days at your ILs house with your kids.. A couple of days adjustment is not a huge deal.. You need to manage somehow. I hope you can.

Then, you can visit your parents and spend relatively a long time there.. It is not necessary for your hubby to spend his holidays with you at your momma's place always, so you can allow him to spend some more days with his parents if he wants. Also as I said before, if your elder son can manage a few days with his dad, please consider sending him there for a couple of days. Your generosity will be really appriciated by both your ILs and DH.

 

Dear Pacer,

There are certain things where we don't have to see our comfort only.. You are so lucky to have an understanding husband and caring ILs.. If you wish to go, you should not give much thought and spend time with both parents with same love..Just think, what if your hubby felt same ?? Why don't you ask your hubby to make few renovations done at your ILs home, after all its your home..I don't think that could be a problem with his parents..

Give your ILs same love that they showed at your pregnancy time, believe me you will feel great..This will make your hubby happy too..

Rest you know your decision.. This was just my opinion..

Tk care..